"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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"I never understand why you guys are so stupid as to get dragged into the following situation:

You see a hot chick at a bar or a club and you say to her, "Can I buy you a drink?" And she says, "Sure! But only if you buy a drink for me AND my friends!" She motions over to a table where five or six cows are sitting having a "Girls Night Out" and you, hoping to get in the hot girl's pants, lay out $50 or so to buy drinks for women you will never see naked (and would never want to).

Have you ever done this? I have to know, has it ever, ever worked?

I have never seen it work. The fat and fuglies are the ones who, even if the girl of your choice likes you, will tear you down in her eyes. They will find every reason for her not to go home with you. Think about it: even if you are the biggest stud in the world, they will all be jealous of their friend meeting such a hot guy and they'll start saying things like "what a creep" or "It's hot in here" or "I feel sick" or "I need to go home. Are you guys ready?" They'll make fun of you for falling for one of the oldest tricks in the book: buying drinks for everyone to get into the hot girl's pants.

The art of "peeling off" when your friend gets laid is a guy thing, but it's not a girl thing. When a chick goes out with her sisters or multiple friends, they are letting you know that they are not there to get laid, but just to get attention. And when one of these chicks is waaaaaay hotter than the others, your girl is just letting her friends live off her fumes by taking the poor hogs out to feed from the trough a little bit while she shows off how much attention she can get by getting fools like you to jump through hoops for her.

A woman who is at the bar alone is a woman who needs companionship and, most often, sex. These are the women to spend your $40 or less on. Avoid women who go out in packs at all costs."-Tom Leykis
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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What woman goes to a bar alone?

2-sets are a goldmine. Always assume they're DTF. Why would two girls just go out for the night on their own? To stare at each other's faces all night?

Girls in pairs are obviously looking to meet men. The catch is you're not going to isolate the girl you want - she won't ditch her friend and let herself be alone. Bring a good wingman.

3-sets are manageable.

4 or more and it's a pain the ass. These are the ones on a "girls night out" there to "just dance". The girls band together, the herd group-think mentality kicks in and suddenly every guy that dares approach is branded a "creeper". To successfully approach a girl you have to win over the MOTHER HEN AND HER FLOCK of friends or you WILL get stymied before you can try to get one alone - most younger girls will side with her friends over a "random", even if she finds you attractive. The herd force-field is strong.

Many of these girls are there to just hang with their girls/social circle and take pictures for Facebook. The ones in large groups are not really there to hook up with new men for whatever reason. If they want to have sex they'll booty-text their FB/FWB at the end of the night after getting their attention/validation fix for the night. Approaching these large groups is a suicide mission for most guys. Don't waste your time.
 

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spinaroonie said:
What woman goes to a bar alone?

2-sets are a goldmine. Always assume they're DTF. Why would two girls just go out for the night on their own? To stare at each other's faces all night?

Girls in pairs are obviously looking to meet men. The catch is you're not going to isolate the girl you want - she won't ditch her friend and let herself be alone. Bring a good wingman.

3-sets are manageable.

4 or more and it's a pain the ass.
Lone wolves do appear at bars sometimes, but are rare. They also tend to be older. Or it could be a business woman traveling who is in a strange city by herself. You might find this at a hotel bar.
 

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Buying women drinks is really stupid. Even if you do it out of sincerity, they're going to think you have an agenda to get them in bed.

On another note.. Tom Leykis is an idiot. If you take his advice on women, you're just going to end up heartless and paranoid. He just says all of that sh1t to get the ratings for his show.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Alex DeLarge said:
Buying women drinks is really stupid. Even if you do it out of sincerity, they're going to think you have an agenda to get them in bed.

On another note.. Tom Leykis is an idiot. If you take his advice on women, you're just going to end up heartless and paranoid. He just says all of that sh1t to get the ratings for his show.
Some of his advice is ridiculous. For example, he said as soon as you finish having s@x, put your clothes on and leave. I'm sure that will go over well lol.

Or sit at the bar by yourself and eventually women will talk to you and try to take you home. Good luck with that one lol.
 

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Mike32ct said:
Or sit at the bar by yourself and eventually women will talk to you and try to take you home. Good luck with that one lol.
honestly, i've had women open me when i was at the bar alone trying to get a drink.

on the subject of buying drinks, i never buy chicks drinks unless i brought them with me.
 
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If a girl isn't my date, she isn't getting a penny of my hard earned money spent on her.

I see guys in clubs buying girls in clubs drinks all the time and I doubt many of them end up getting laid, unless it is with some low class piece of trash.

I do agree though, it seems easier to approach girls when they are in a two's or three's as opposed to being in large groups.
 

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Alex DeLarge said:
Tom Leykis is an idiot. If you take his advice on women, you're just going to end up heartless and paranoid. He just says all of that sh1t to get the ratings for his show.
I used to listen to his show and get a laugh here and there, but the dumbest thing he said was to: make sure you have a bottle of tobasco sauce so you can put some in the used condom before you throw it in the trash.

(if she tried to knock herself up with it...surprise surprise) like she wouldn't see or smell red hot sauce in it.

That's just dumb I flush 'em immediately (flushed 2 this morning lol)

Someone called him out on it and said that was stupid, just flush them, then he went into a rant about how it's bad for the sewer to flush rubbers.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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