“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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Letting your woman go to the neighborhood pool while you're at work...

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Would you? Do you? I'm talkin' a popular summertime neighborhood pool. If you are married or are pretty much understood to be "exclusive" but she wants to go and swim/sunbathe there.

Do you Let her. This venue with bikinis and roaming dudes (doesn't matter if they also are married/in a committed relationship) in the heat of Summer, it would be sooooo easy for her to cheat (in YOUR bed even, in your house...in HIS bed/house...or...at the pool, even, maybe in a bathroom even though that'd be tough as long as it's crowded).

You Know these pools exist all over your city. They just seem SO ripe as a haven for cheating. It wouldn't take Much. You have to wonder, how does a guy let his girl GO to these pools while he is at work?? (all day)
 

What happens, IN HER MIND, is that she comes to see you as WORTHLESS simply because she hasn't had to INVEST anything in you in order to get you or to keep you.

You were an interesting diversion while she had nothing else to do. But now that someone a little more valuable has come along, someone who expects her to treat him very well, she'll have no problem at all dropping you or demoting you to lowly "friendship" status.

Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.

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The solution is to get a woman who works instead of one who spends all your money and ingests another mans penis.
 

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She has her own life if she wants to go for a swim, she should go for a swim. The issue is you not being able to handle something not in your control. Will she check out a hot guy at the pool? Probably, just like you would check out a hot girl at the supermarket or at work. All you are telling us is you have trust issues
 

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Insecurity is not an attractive trait.
 
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At the end of the day you cannot worry about it. You should be able to put her in these environments and not have anything to worry about.

Now if the females she's hanging with are all s1uts and cheat on their husbands, you have plenty to be afraid of. That stuff happens in groups, and the minority who "don't cheat" end up "cheating".
 

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I feel the 2 groups being drawn again towards another boundaries thread hahaha :crackup: :crackup: :crackup: .

Honestly, skinnyguy is right. I'm not married, but I still wouldn't want my wife to be running around in a bikini alone filled with other men. I mean come on. It's like me going out to a club alone lol. Not happening (although the latter maybe)
 

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You can't and shouldn't try to control her. If she wants to go let her go and if that violates your standards in a committed relationship, walk away.
 

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Have you ever Been to/driven by one of these packed public (or private) neighborhood pools (in a low, middle class, or even uppah class neighborhood)? It's 80 to 95 degrees out, men and women, their children running around (laughing) maybe, just bedlam crazy carefree atmosphere/environment. Maybe your girl is in a lawnchair not too far from a stout, slick-talking built dude as his right arm dangles from his chair and they begin talking and keep talking, they develop a short quick relationship, they go back to his/her place down the street. Get a glass of tea, maybe a beer or two. They kiss, grind, clothes drop. You will NEVER know.
 

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You can't prevent her from meeting other men. You can only be the best option she has. Don't restrict her, improve yourself instead.
 

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El Payaso said:
Insecurity is not an attractive trait.
Yep. Not a good look, OP.

Poonani Maker said:
Have you ever Been to/driven by one of these packed public (or private) neighborhood pools (in a low, middle class, or even uppah class neighborhood)? It's 80 to 95 degrees out, men and women, their children running around (laughing) maybe, just bedlam crazy carefree atmosphere/environment. Maybe your girl is in a lawnchair not too far from a stout, slick-talking built dude as his right arm dangles from his chair and they begin talking and keep talking, they develop a short quick relationship, they go back to his/her place down the street. Get a glass of tea, maybe a beer or two. They kiss, grind, clothes drop. You will NEVER know.
If anything, this is actually why she will cheat on you. Your desperation and insecurity is palpable.

Why do you even care though? If she's going to hook up with another dude and cheat, better sooner rather than later. Is your world going to end?
 

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This is why I think relationships and marriages are a waste of time. 2 insecure people filled with controlling rules for one another. Its not cute. humans were not meant to be monogamous the writing is on the wall
 

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Get a woman who works and don't f**kin' get married!

Case closed. Simple solution.
 

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What is to prevent her from going to the pool after you go to work? If you worry about everything a woman does it will drive you crazy. She can cheat with anybody at any place. It does not have to be at a public pool. Are you going to worry all the places she goes? Think about you and not her. Adding that much importance on her will ruin your frame and then she will cheat.
 

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Peña said:
What is to prevent her from going to the pool after you go to work? If you worry about everything a woman does it will drive you crazy. She can cheat with anybody at any place. It does not have to be at a public pool. Are you going to worry all the places she goes? Think about you and not her. Adding that much importance on her will ruin your frame and then she will cheat.
I get around, A LOT, especially weekdays. The weekend is when everyone is with their SO the most. When I am out there, I get flirted with (both hard and softly) by obviously married women (away from their husbands) and most likely, in some way or another, "attached" women. Some are overtly looking to get physical with me (rare though). Most would, the standard, flick their hair, purse lips, twirl, or turn submissively and look back at me, an invitation. MOST will just drop hints, give clues for you to advance, and engage them in convo. THIS, in my mind, is Cheating. It's careless "playfulness" that could very well lead to a liaison, and Quick. I can tell when a woman is not satisfied in her current relationship, as well as a woman who just wants to "live a little" and slip into a heat-of-the-moment progression (to fvck), though still wanting to fall back on her current man.

I'm just saying, on Summertime Weekdays at least (away from her hubby, maybe shopping, or at home, or at work, on her way to lunch, coming back from lunch, whatever she is doing on a Summertime Weekday), I get flirted with quite a bit. If a dude is alongside her (her beau), he will feel a sudden loss of her attention and an obvious insecurity when I walk past or as I pass. WOMEN, I say, look at other guys while out with her man, either equal to or MORE so than us guys do when we are out with them. Our eyes drift to other women, but they overtly detach from the guy she's with and focuses on You, the passerby interest comparison/contrast. Sometimes a woman will immediately feel ashamed of her man walking alongside her. I know the dude Feels this, eh 60% probably do not notice though. It's sad, she doesn't even Know me, but the comparison/contrast twirls in her mind if but for a moment in the day. I am not an Adonis, but her associations all come together on ME, she immediately builds me up in her mind to be much much much more than I am, just because, She Already HAS the dude by her side. She wants to Hop at what she sees, at what she perceives she's seeing.

I feel that if she knew the REAL ME, that she would stick with her beau, but she sees a clarity of value before her and it's obvious the "grass is greener on the other side" is flowing through her wanting veins. Women are deluded by their eyes quite often. They think they want me but to be with me, I know, would be to be in bondage, in Hell, cause I am really loyal to NO woman. I use/get tired of them all the time. I am a terrible "lover," good at sex though, just bad at really caring about most women, over the long haul, I guess because I've never produced a child with one, I guess, idk.
 

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Poonani Maker said:
Would you? Do you? I'm talkin' a popular summertime neighborhood pool. If you are married or are pretty much understood to be "exclusive" but she wants to go and swim/sunbathe there.

Do you Let her. This venue with bikinis and roaming dudes (doesn't matter if they also are married/in a committed relationship) in the heat of Summer, it would be sooooo easy for her to cheat (in YOUR bed even, in your house...in HIS bed/house...or...at the pool, even, maybe in a bathroom even though that'd be tough as long as it's crowded).

You Know these pools exist all over your city. They just seem SO ripe as a haven for cheating. It wouldn't take Much. You have to wonder, how does a guy let his girl GO to these pools while he is at work?? (all day)
Lol, my friend let me break something down to you that you might not know....A LOT of women cheat, and when they cheat, you will have no idea about it.

Women are professional cheaters, meaning, you could be married to one for 20 years and never knew she cheated on you.

To be quite honest with you, if you are in a relationship today, you need to lower your expectations in terms of her loyalty. Be in a relationship with a chick that brings you direct benefits that YOU want, such as maybe good sex, her time, her support, her good words, her cooking, something like that. But DO NOT expect a chick to be totally loyal and do not expect her to not cheat on you.

If you catch her cheating, dump her (only to protect your ego, remember we have low expectations of these chicks so it's not like finding out she cheats is a surprise lol).

But there's no need to ban her from public places where she might cheat, it's not like she's going to the nightclub with a short skirt on. If she were doing that then I would ask some questions, but I would NEVER trip out about it.

When you catch her cheating, dump her. Matter of fact, dude always spin plates. This is just a new day and age, nobody is faithful to anybody anymore lol. That's why these guys trip me out about their "focusing on finding the one" type of shyt, dude there's no THE ONE. Every girl, in some capacity, is a wh0re.
 

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Ruler said:
Come on Tenacity. As ironic as this is (No.Danny said it to me in another thread), that's equivalent to me saying all black men cannot make it in life. Obviously, the statement is not true because you, yourself, have a great life and you're wise. Not ALL women will cheat on you, especially if you play it right. You have to be the prize to her.

Restricting access to any venue is a sign of weakness and insecurity. Let her go flaunt herself, because then she will come home to her man and be happy that she's got him. IF he's a real man. She'll disobey you anyways, so who cares? Tell her you could care less what she does, it's her life.
Ruler, I understand you, but what ticks some of you guys off about me on this Forum is that I discuss the realities of this market, you guys want to paint this "rosey picture" that just doesn't translate into the real world. I know what I'm talking about because I'm out here dealing with women on a consistent basis, all types of women.

If ALL it took was to "play it right" and your woman wouldn't cheat or do other things that shows disloyalty, a lot of guys would still be married or still be in their "committed" relationships. A lot of men wouldn't be banned access to seeing their freaking kids only 4 days of the month.

Also when you talk about being a "Real Man," what the hell is that? To women of this market, a "Real Man" is someone that allows them to utilize their "resources" for her utility to their max potential.

Forget trying to be a Real Man based on what a woman's definition of such a concept is, instead of being a "Real Man" be "Your Own Man."

When I say that every girl in some capacity is a wh0re, what I mean is that the concept of the "good, nice, wholesome, chick" is dead. Their loyalty is shot to hell and she will fvck your best friend to get back at you for some of the most minimal shyt possible.
 
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When there is no future, then there is no reason to be Moral. Jesus said to the crowd that some of them would Still be Alive when he returns. The Vatican can have no morals because there wasn't supposed to be a future, according to the Bible and that's what makes the Bible not true. I keep pointing this out over and over but no one ever remembers. I am always alone, and it's scary because I've always been on the other side of those in Power.

So our women have no morals because there isn't a future.
 
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