"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Question. How do you just break it off with plates you are seeing? Especially if you have to see them a few times a week (not at work but just around)?

Bring up the lets just be friends card? Or just stop contacting them all together.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Just tell her that this isnt working, we need to stop. Then its up to her wise enough to leave.. Your job is done.
 

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I generally flip the script so I don't look like a bad guy.
If you don't care to see the girl again, do stuff and start behaving where they break it off with you.
Like start acting needy, clingy, beta, possessive, accusing, paranoid, etc. Anything that will repel women and dry up their pvssy. Then it makes them look like the bad guy since they break it off with you. LOL
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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JohnChops

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If you're banging her why would you want to put her in the friendzone?
Because I dont want to anymore.

lol @Lookatu I could do that, and that does work but seems like way too much work.

@Focal core might give that a try thanks man
 

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Just tell her that this isnt working, we need to stop. Then its up to her wise enough to leave.. Your job is done.
Honest and simple.

I generally flip the script so I don't look like a bad guy.
If you don't care to see the girl again, do stuff and start behaving where they break it off with you.
Like start acting needy, clingy, beta, possessive, accusing, paranoid, etc. Anything that will repel women and dry up their pvssy. Then it makes them look like the bad guy since they break it off with you. LOL
You‘re serious about this?
 

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Question. How do you just break it off with plates you are seeing? Especially if you have to see them a few times a week (not at work but just around)?

Bring up the lets just be friends card? Or just stop contacting them all together.
Don't break it unless you have other plates. It is best to meet and fvck plate at least once a week, but never break.
I guess you are done with this girl, and have other opyions.
In my opinion if you are done it is best to just slow down and meet less by less until you just walk off or she starts to argue and blame you for shyt.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Some people confuse "pates" with "friends with benefits."

If these are plates, then there was no unwritten 'contract' to begin with. No explanation necessary. You are both free agents.

If these are friends with benefits, you remain just as cordial as before, but you always carry around an "excuse" as to why you two can't hook up tonight.

lol @Lookatu I could do that, and that does work but seems like way too much work.
In theory, you'd think that this would work. Most often, it backfires... because women (the ones that are really into you) interpret this as you removing aloofness and showing a vulnerable side.
 
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I wouldn't bring anything up. Just be cool and slowly fade. Lets just be friends is what women do.

I've actually had a few plates turn into genuine friendships where we no longer sleep together. If I had said, lets just be friends I think it would have been insulting.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Friendships can last a lifetime. Plates can last one night.

It's not "let's just be friends" it's "let's just fvck".
 

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There is always someone else that "I wanna try to make it work with". The script varies but basically you aren't available emotionally for her.
 
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