"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Letting a friend know his gf cheated on him with his "friend"

dk1990S111

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Need your guys opinion.

This friend of mine has a smoking hot gf, she was in the hooters calendar lol anyways, they are constantly fighting over the years but always come back to eachother. No I highly doubt its love, its that he is rich and she is hot so neither thinks they can do better.

This past New Years they were fighting and I guess he was alone and was going to kill himself. He called my buddy W at the time to talk. (W and I stopped talking because I realized that he was fake as fvck around 6 months ago) Few months later while me and W are still friends W tells me that he fvcked the other guys girl.

I think about this all the time and feel that my buddy needs to know about it but he is obviously very unstable when he doesnt have her. Dont get me wrong he is pretty alpha but I guess she is his weakness.

Would you tell him? I have a text from W basically saying "he's a hater, thats why I fvcked his girl" so its not a case where they would be able to deny it.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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What the heck, just do it. and as Drake would say: "YOLO". Show your friend the text and watch the fireworks.
 

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well ya that sounds easy enough but you know how people want to shoot the messenger. Thats the problem I am having, me telling him will ruin things between them. Obviously that is the way it should be but still, dont want him to get all pissed at me for filling him in on this.
 

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Think about what how it would be if you were in his place. Would suck wouldn't it ?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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djthiago1 said:
Think about what how it would be if you were in his place. Would suck wouldn't it ?
ya thats what I mean, I have thought about it both ways. not telling him atleast he is ignorantly happy (although right now they appear to be fighting so itd be a good time to tell him), telling him he will be pissed at the world and possibly kill himself since I doubt he will ever go back to her after finding this out.
 

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ya thats what I mean, I have thought about it both ways. not telling him atleast he is ignorantly happy (although right now they appear to be fighting so itd be a good time to tell him), telling him he will be pissed at the world and possibly kill himself since I doubt he will ever go back to her after finding this out.
Would you prefer and easy girl that does everything you want ? Or a hard headed, structured, challenge woman? Think with your brains not emotions.
 

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lol well she better not be hard headed and she better do everything I want in the bedroom so a little of both haha
 

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well since W is not your friend and this rich dude with the hot GF is... you're obviously on his side.

This is a hard choice though IMO, because of two things:
1) If he's suicidal it could be dangerous to tell him.
2) Your hope is that he realizes what a cheating hoe bag she is and leaves her...however in all reality, do you think that's really going to happen? You say he's alpha but he seems like this girl kind of owns him. From the info you've given us i anticipate he'll get pissed at her for a while and then they'll just make up and he'll rationalize her cheating.

You know him better than us. I would err on the side of telling him. But only if you're sure he's not going to hurt himself and that he'll likely leave her.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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gravityeyelids said:
well since W is not your friend and this rich dude with the hot GF is... you're obviously on his side.

This is a hard choice though IMO, because of two things:
1) If he's suicidal it could be dangerous to tell him.
2) Your hope is that he realizes what a cheating hoe bag she is and leaves her...however in all reality, do you think that's really going to happen? You say he's alpha but he seems like this girl kind of owns him. From the info you've given us i anticipate he'll get pissed at her for a while and then they'll just make up and he'll rationalize her cheating.

You know him better than us. I would err on the side of telling him. But only if you're sure he's not going to hurt himself and that he'll likely leave her.
Ya, thats how Im thinking. Leaning towards telling him and just letting him know that if he needs to talk to someone then I am there for him.

As for the bold part, if that happens then she ends up hating me and he wont be allowed to be my friend anymore lol
 
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