Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
ElStud said:Me and my friends could be right behind a chick and I'll go "So what about her, would you f*ck her man?". We don't care.
Yeah, best to not say that stuff at work.Kev07 said:One of my coworkers got fired for this. Lady filed a complaint.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Hey, good for him, getting fired for his natural desires? Screw the boss. She was probably a feminist.Kev07 said:One of my coworkers got fired for this. Lady filed a complaint.
Besides, what's the purpose of everyone using the same system?Serialized3 said:You guys are nerds.
I'll admit, I have a system.Francisco d'Anconia said:Besides, what's the purpose of everyone using the same system?
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
The scale itself is superficial. Rating a girl on her looks is superficial!reset said:Well that's good. Sometimes a guy will be like "what about this chick I just met here's her picture" and to me, that's just f'ed up.
I went back and re-read your post. Even though it's superficial, I have to admit it was pretty damn funny.
This should be the new scale.ElStud said:But yeah, dude's boss was a loser and the girl was probably a b*tch. That b*tch should be HONORED to want to be f*cked by an Alpha Male.
Here's how I see things...
HB1 - Does that even exist?
HB2 - Really ugly.
HB3 - Kind of ugly.
HB4 - Alright, but not that good looking.
HB5 - Alright.
HB6 - Cute.
HB7 - Hot.
HB8 - Very hot.
HB9 - Fine.
HB10 - A damn fox.
I judge whether a chick is hot on two things, face and her body.
IMO your 5 has a great body and your 6 is better than your seven and nine.ElStud said:Yeah, it's because we have different taste mostly likely. Like I'm more into blonde girls, yet the guy who made the topic clearly isn't. I mean here are pictures of what'd I rank girls...
HB5:
http://www.bullz-eye.com/Models/200303Mary/Mary-19.jpg
HB6:
http://www.gadgetell.com/images/062006/newfirefoxmascot.jpg
HB7:
http://ec2.images-amazon.com/images..._sexy_girl_sexy_women_sexy_nude_sexy_babe.jpg
HB8:
http://www.bullz-eye.com/Models/200310Stacy/Stacy-18.jpg
HB9:
http://www.vegasinsider.com/images/model_images/denise6.jpg
HB10:
Don't know.
I'd honestly rank most celebrity girls in the 6-7 range unless they're like really hot. To me, one of the most important things when ranking a girl is her face. Like if she's got a cute face, good personality, but doesn't really have much of an ass or anything, I'd still screw her. But if she's not that good looking and does have those features though, I'd have to decide.
I'd be flattered. It'd be kinda neat.reset said:How would you feel if you knew some chick put a picture of you on the internet and had a bunch of anonymous strangers rating your physical appearance?
Anyway, everyone is different. If we all had the same tastes and interests this world would be boring.
The whole concept behind this thread makes me sick though. So why am I posting in it?
Interesting.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.