"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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lets have a dj section for dj's over 23 so we can have good, mature, deep discussions

JUST ME

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and field experience- not in suggestions because noone will see this!


i think its a good idea.im tired of newbies posting obvious crap on the main board.im sure alot of them are 15-20, and are acting like they are so experienced.

sighs.......

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"sweetie, youre paying for dinner, right?"

Women avoid, men confront.

Only a REAL MAN admits his mistakes.

RULE#1-A woman knows in the first few minutes if she will sleep with you or not.

RULE#2-Regardless of her intentions, a woman will let you spend your time, money and attention on her.

RULE#3- You can't convince anyone to do anything.You can lead a horse to water, but you can't make 'em drink.


If we all took our OWN advice, we'd be alot smarter.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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John Powers

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JUST ME,

I for one think that's a great idea. I'm no master DJ by any sorts, but I have reading this site for a long time, I don't post too much, but it seems as though this site is getting younger and less mature as time goes on. Of course part of the problem is that high school age kids aren't using that forum, so perhaps having yet another forum for older guys won't change anything. Regardless, I'm tired of seeing people giving out advice left and right like they know what they're doing and then seeing posts where they are asking questions that make it clear that they have no idea at all what to do with basic situations. Oh, and while we're talking about it, it would also be nice to be able to read posts with something resembling proper spelling and grammar. It would be nice if there was something that we could do.

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We cannot reason ourselves out of our basic irrationality.
All we can do is learn the art of being irrational in
a reasonable way. -- Island -- Aldous Huxley

John Powers -out!
 

Bungo Pony

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The problem I have is with the newbies giving advice. A lot of it is the common dating 5hit that is written in the latest Maxim or Stuff magazine. I've read some of the 5hit in there & it's all instructions on how to be another common AFC.

When I came here about a year ago, all I did was post experiences and ask for advice, suggestions & comments. I'm still learning, but I've put into practiced what I've learned from here. All in all, I'm turning out to be a pretty damn good DJ.

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"Look in your mirror, It'll tell you the truth,
Don't waste your time away
Thinkin' bout yesterday's blues" - Richie Sambora
 

stuartSan

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"and field experience- not in suggestions because noone will see this!"

Still needs to be moved to Suggestion Forums.

Rules are rules.
 

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You'd have the same problem the Main forum does now, lots of repeditive posts from younger people in your new forum unless of course it was zelously policed.

[This message has been edited by KnightErrant (edited 10-07-2002).]
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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