I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Lets notLet's All Post Pics...
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
i agree this thread is a bit pointless. but in response to what you said, why would your entire game/persona be ruined?Originally posted by The Bad Ass Canadian
There's a thread in anything else that is for pic posting. go there.
Many of us would rather not post a pic, because if someone identifies us, our entire game/persona that we work so hard to build and become could be ruined...
I'm secure enough with myself that I don't need anyone on here's opinion of my looks. I know I'm a good looking guy, so that's all that matters... anyone else's opinion is just that... an opinion.
One of the reasons I've never done it. Just emagine the embarasment of people you know (your friends) making fun of you for going on internat to find out haw to woo chicks....Originally posted by The Bad Ass Canadian
Many of us would rather not post a pic, because if someone identifies us, our entire game/persona that we work so hard to build and become could be ruined...
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Ok I have a before an after picture guys. This is me before SoSuave:Originally posted by eLMac
So we can see how alpha each of us look in real life.
And we can see if the DJ's are good looking and if the AFC's are not so good looking.
It'll will be good for feedback and clothing, Body Language, Styling tips etc.
yeah, i have one or two threads that i wouldn't want everyone to see.Originally posted by The Bad Ass Canadian
Yeah, I'm not saying that I'm tricking anyone.... It just comes down to knowing what the general population is like.
They see a guy coming on here and trying to improve himself, and they twist it in their head. It becomes a negative thing, like what we do here is some sort of voodoo jedi mind trick or something.
They will think that the only reason I am Alpha, in my group is because I come on here and learn... and they will think that I AM tricking them, somehow.....
get what I'm saying?
Also, I'm in the spotlight, quite a bit, so I'd rather keep my online identity fairly secret. There are many lurkers that we don't even see.
So, I do agree with what you're saying, but I hope you can understand my angle, as well.
and, if you are identified, it's not too difficult to use the ol' search function and dig up all the threads and posts that you've written.
There's alot of dirt on here that we mean only for the forum members, and no one else.
Some of my closest freinds know that I come on here...(at least that I used to come on here) They've checked it out, too but aren't really ready to accept the hard truths about what happens in the dating world. They respect me, because they know that I am right... but they value different things and aren't into becoming the best they can be in every aspect of their lives, because they are happy with what they are doing.
I guess what I'm saying is that I personally am a very private guy... and i come on here and talk about some things that I would never talk about publicly...
Agreed. I did post some pics a while ago, but I've removed them since then just in case I get spotted.Originally posted by spider_007
One of the reasons I've never done it. Just emagine the embarasment of people you know (your friends) making fun of you for going on internat to find out haw to woo chicks....
Originally posted by h2o
there is a "Post your picture ONLY" thread already: http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?s=&threadid=30488&highlight=post