women haze said:
Take it from me man, Girls dont call you unless they are in a relationship with you. You have to be the initiator...you have to tell them to come here, to go out with you, and where to sit down.
Exactly man.
I tried to rep you,but the darn thing wouldn't let me.
women haze said:
I am learning that If I don't give a damn and no contact, they won't give a damn.
This is true,
if...if...if there's no
connection there.
I'm going to keep on saying this to you until you get it,Jonblood.
Unless you ask her out,unless there's a risk of rejection,you'll continue running around in circles,not understanding what's going on,and frustrating YOURSELF.
You're not going to get around risking rejection to a girl...PERIOD.
That risk IS NECESSARY.
You're not going to get around it,ignore it,bypass it,and still get the girl.
And that's a PROMISE.
And until you learn this,you'll just continue to
unecessarily cause yourself problems with girls.
This girl you're talking about,I take it it's the same one you invited to the BBQ,right? And you
still haven't asked her out.
Well,we're doing our part. The forum is giving you helpful info. The rest is up to you. If you use it,fine,if not,then keep playing games until you see her in the arms of another guy.
Your choice dude.
You're not being a man here. YOU'RE supposed lead,YOU"RE supposed to pursue her. You keep waiting for her to take the lead and initiate thing between you two.
And it ain't gonna happen.
While you're sitting around waiting on her to basically "approach" you,I guarantee you some guy somewhere has an eye on her and is going to pursue her for himself.
The point where the girl will start to call,text,or take a more aggressive role in spending time with you is
AFTER a emotional connection has been made.
Once you get her somewhat hooked emotionally,then you can start to scale back the attention,and she'll initate things more.
Women haze is right. If you try to scale back BEFORE the connection is made,
then she won't care
