Rocko
Senior Don Juan
well, i have read both sides to the arguement and i just wanted to know which is the correct one. By loosing to the girl, you are giving her more power over you, but by winning, aren't you crushing her / being a show-off?
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Let the girl beat you?
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
WC2
Master Don Juan
Beat you at what? I mean I guess it depends, but in most cases girls want a guy to beat them. They want a superior guy. Once in awhile it's nice to let a girl win, but make sure she knows that you let her win.
Docs
Banned
In agreeance with WC2, it depends on what you are doing.
And not always tell her you let her won, it makes her feel good to do something honest, it's not always worthwhile to ruin it for her.
And not always tell her you let her won, it makes her feel good to do something honest, it's not always worthwhile to ruin it for her.
Rocko
Senior Don Juan
gotcha, thanks
American_Psycho
Don Juan
I'm assuming you're talking about some kind of physical activity in which you would generally be superior to a girl.
You shouldn't be giving 110% effort like it's the NBA finals or something, but you shouldn't just let her win either. Play down to her level so it's relaxed but competitive. Give her a chance to win but make her work for it.
You shouldn't be giving 110% effort like it's the NBA finals or something, but you shouldn't just let her win either. Play down to her level so it's relaxed but competitive. Give her a chance to win but make her work for it.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Skilla_Staz
Master Don Juan
Arguements. If you are right, you do not back down.
If you are wrong, comprimise. If she makes a valid arguement, just say "I guess you got a point there. I say we leave it at that, and stop arguing. I'm a lover not a fighter babe.
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If you are wrong, comprimise. If she makes a valid arguement, just say "I guess you got a point there. I say we leave it at that, and stop arguing. I'm a lover not a fighter babe.
"wavejams007
Master Don Juan
dittoAmerican_Psycho said: