The Antichrist_Star
Master Don Juan
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This post brings us to the end of the road gentlemen… and what a journey it has been. This compilation of posts is a result of a whirlpool or thoughts and emotions… as well as an assortment of things occurring in my life respectively. I wish I had all of the answers gentlemen… life would probably be a lot easier that way. Or perhaps not… because the more questions you begin to answer… the more answers are required for those questions. Such is the paradox of knowledge gentlemen… but I digress.
To end this series, I decided to delve into the topic that many of our peers believe is a topic that is uncharted territory in the community, for whatever reason… this is a subject that has not been address to an expansive degree. What I am speaking of gentlemen is the concept of the relationship. Which many consider the completion of our quest in the pursuit of the female gender… but alas gentlemen… this is merely the beginning.
The relationship… is perhaps the most difficult and emotionally taxing out of all the human engagements. To all of those who believe that getting girls is the difficult part… you could not be more incorrect. It is keeping a woman that is the difficult part. This seems counterintuitive to many of us because many of us enter relationships for that stability and security… wrong answer. While in a relationship you may be around that woman for a longer period of time than with others… the security and stability are only there for as long as you can keep it. Which many of us have learned can be a short to extended period of time. The thing about relationships that many of us fail to realize is that you essentially have to seduce the same woman over and over again. This is again, counterintuitive because many of us get into relationships because we want to step away from the “game”… you just walked into a much more difficult game gentlemen.
With this is mind, remember that the most important lesson to remember before entering a relationship is to never become sedentary or languid in the relationship. In this relationship, it will be important that ways are discovered to keep the relationship fresh and feeling as if it just started. Moreover, remember that the longer the relationship spans… the more difficult it become to achieve this. It will not be necessary for you to scramble to recreate freshness all of the time (especially the longer it goes on), just every once and a while to keep everyone on their toes. Two quotes to remember in a relationship:
“Absence makes the heart grow fonder…”
“Familiarity breeds contempt…”
Many of us make the mistake of assuming that conversation is only important in the beginning stages of an engagement… this again could not be further from the truth. Look at it like this… count the number of conversations that you have with a girl between the first three dates… and now I want you to times that number by about six. That is how much more you and your partner will have to converse in your relationship. I cannot stress how important communication is to relationships gentlemen… because oftentimes it is the reason why a relationship comes to an end. Almost every problem that a relationship faces is usually a direct result of a lack of communication. So consider this the next time that you enter in a relationship… it is imperative that engage in a relationship with someone that you feel comfortable talking to about everything. Your girlfriend should in most cases be one of your closest friends, so if for some reason you believe otherwise… then you may consider another partner.
Lastly… in a relationship, it is important to remember this: There is no “me” in relationship. In a relationship… you and your partner become a unit… a group. This means that you function as a unit or else the relationship does not work. I am not saying that you must be attached at the hip. But like any good team, you and your partner must have outstanding chemistry with each other. Moreover, if you are going to be in a relationship, you will have to realize that you can no longer consider your feelings or just what you want to do. In the same breath, you must consider her feelings and what she wants to do.
Of course there is a lot more that goes into relationships gentlemen… but hopefully this will give you some beginning.
Speaking of which… everything that has a beginning must have an end and every end creates a new beginning. With that I introduce to you… E Pluribus Unum: Out of Many… One
To end this series, I decided to delve into the topic that many of our peers believe is a topic that is uncharted territory in the community, for whatever reason… this is a subject that has not been address to an expansive degree. What I am speaking of gentlemen is the concept of the relationship. Which many consider the completion of our quest in the pursuit of the female gender… but alas gentlemen… this is merely the beginning.
The relationship… is perhaps the most difficult and emotionally taxing out of all the human engagements. To all of those who believe that getting girls is the difficult part… you could not be more incorrect. It is keeping a woman that is the difficult part. This seems counterintuitive to many of us because many of us enter relationships for that stability and security… wrong answer. While in a relationship you may be around that woman for a longer period of time than with others… the security and stability are only there for as long as you can keep it. Which many of us have learned can be a short to extended period of time. The thing about relationships that many of us fail to realize is that you essentially have to seduce the same woman over and over again. This is again, counterintuitive because many of us get into relationships because we want to step away from the “game”… you just walked into a much more difficult game gentlemen.
With this is mind, remember that the most important lesson to remember before entering a relationship is to never become sedentary or languid in the relationship. In this relationship, it will be important that ways are discovered to keep the relationship fresh and feeling as if it just started. Moreover, remember that the longer the relationship spans… the more difficult it become to achieve this. It will not be necessary for you to scramble to recreate freshness all of the time (especially the longer it goes on), just every once and a while to keep everyone on their toes. Two quotes to remember in a relationship:
“Absence makes the heart grow fonder…”
“Familiarity breeds contempt…”
Many of us make the mistake of assuming that conversation is only important in the beginning stages of an engagement… this again could not be further from the truth. Look at it like this… count the number of conversations that you have with a girl between the first three dates… and now I want you to times that number by about six. That is how much more you and your partner will have to converse in your relationship. I cannot stress how important communication is to relationships gentlemen… because oftentimes it is the reason why a relationship comes to an end. Almost every problem that a relationship faces is usually a direct result of a lack of communication. So consider this the next time that you enter in a relationship… it is imperative that engage in a relationship with someone that you feel comfortable talking to about everything. Your girlfriend should in most cases be one of your closest friends, so if for some reason you believe otherwise… then you may consider another partner.
Lastly… in a relationship, it is important to remember this: There is no “me” in relationship. In a relationship… you and your partner become a unit… a group. This means that you function as a unit or else the relationship does not work. I am not saying that you must be attached at the hip. But like any good team, you and your partner must have outstanding chemistry with each other. Moreover, if you are going to be in a relationship, you will have to realize that you can no longer consider your feelings or just what you want to do. In the same breath, you must consider her feelings and what she wants to do.
Of course there is a lot more that goes into relationships gentlemen… but hopefully this will give you some beginning.
Speaking of which… everything that has a beginning must have an end and every end creates a new beginning. With that I introduce to you… E Pluribus Unum: Out of Many… One
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