"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Lefty's Cold Approach Audio Files***
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
jericg
Don Juan
sageproduct
Banned
Good sh1t bro. Thumbs up for SimplePickup! (God Mode)
I listened to the whole thing.
1. Ehh you thinking your voice sounding weird is just self-consciousness. I don't think your voice sounded weird. You sounded cool.
2. Too much bantering and not enough personal connecting, I think. This chick was at work, so you only had a couple minutes reasonably to talk to her before she had to get back to work. In the whole conversation, you joked back and forth but didn't make it personal at all, didn't get to know each other at all. Even in limited time, you should at least do some qualification.
3. I got the feeling that you reneged when asking for her number by quickly reacting and saying "Why are you laughing?" It kind of made it seem like you were unsure of yourself in asking for her #.
Anyway, really, really good job. First approach in 6 months? You sounded warmed up already. And remember, getting through those awkward situations is a very GOOD thing...kind of like pain is weakness leaving the body, well feeling awkward situations is equal to social inadequacy leaving your personality
LearningSlowly
Master Don Juan
Friendly, non-judgmental and calm. You acted as though what you were doing was perfectly natural, but still acknowledged that it could be awkward for her. I'm excited for this thread to grow.
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Yeah i was so ****ing nervous lol. Yeah i still have to purge some of that insecurity. Solid tips too, thanks. Simple pick up ftw. yeah that was my 1st one. There were a couple after but i didn't have time to record.sageproduct said:
Yeah idk where that came from haha. Just came up with it on the spot. Thanks for the tips.LearningSlowly said:
Overall though guys, i'm going to continue this thread on the MAIN FORUM so more people can see it. Check back there because that's where i'll update. Link in my sig.