"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Well after great frustration yesterday, i decided to tell my girl to pick up her things, and through my intelligent hb9 out of my appartement, and broke up with her.
Today, i regret and fell very sad about the situation..

The reason i broke up with her, was simply that she kept complaining over me, and had some serious issues with dobbelt standarts. Another reason being that i went through a 12 Day severe illness, where she only had time to be there for mé 1 Day - this also made me fell very sad.

Let it be Said though, that i have been with this girl for 8 months, and before that used 6 months to get to her.
I really care for her, and still dó love her.

But i need a kick In the nuts, and some tips for moving ón... Going back is not the Right thing, my mind/heart just have to realize it too..
Today i really felt like calling her to arrange a meet up, just so i could tell her how i fell.. but yet again, i know it is the wrong thing to do.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Wow.... I fell like Shvt!
- 12 hours after the breakup, she is mildly 'flirting' with an old flame, she kissed 2 weeks before we Got together....
 

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You dumped her for a good reason (if she's complaining it means interest level is going down). But now you're being a girl. You whine because she's not there for you when you're needy and sick? Who wants to be around some sick person?

Then you want her back the next day? Now you're spying on her and wondering why she's moving on? You've got to wait until she comes back or you're done.
 

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I disagree with the illness part, i would have been there for her - i Guess it is a matter of values.

But yes, i dumped her and have the felling of wanting her back, but i know i shouldn't, and i am not going to take her back.

The last part i have no comments for, nothing Else than i thought she cared a bit more for mé than that :(
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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PairPlusRoyalFlush said:
if you got 1 HB9(assuming she's not crazy) you can get another one.

There's a guy i know that looks like a 2 or 3 but has some status(But not enough to make up for his looks). He got dumped by his 7 gf and is now dating a 9. Its the most unreal thing ever to me haha, Ive hit on both his gf's too(before I knew). Tight game conquers all.
I Guess something good allways follows a bad situation!
 
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