"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Left ball in her court, good or bad idea?

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I've been out on two dates with this girl, who i met through my mates girlfriend and the two dates have gone really well I think, ended with a nice kiss last night.

These two dates have been set up by me and she seems to be interested, but when the night came to an end last night after i kissed her, I told her it was her turn to organise a night and that she was to call me. The thing is that this girl is on a pay as you go phone and never seems to txt so Im starting to wonder whether I've probably killed any chances with her by giving her control....duh!

am I screwed? probably, but if theres any advice then I would like to hear some.

Dave
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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yeah do what duke says!! :D
 
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Originally posted by Dukester
wait a minute....

cutiepie, did you just agree w/ me?

what's up w/ that! lol
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lmao duke!!


:D :D :D

Oh you must want me to turn into my evil twin then lol
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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You left the ball in her court on the second date after she has shown nothing but high interest?

That was a huge fumble.

You just relenquished one of the three C's. You have to maintain control. Only put the ball in her court if she is vacillating about you, and not before you've established a strong rapport. The only reason you do it THEN is to knock her off the fence by denying her the option and letting her feel how much her life would suck without you in it.

Recover the ball as soon as you can. Arrange to run into her and tell her you're wounded that she didn't call, but you'll let her make it up to you by going out with you saturday night.

-Cyrano
 
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check_mate_kid_uk

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Originally posted by CyranoDeBergerac
tell her you're wounded that she didn't call, but you'll let her make it up to you by going out with you saturday night.
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you do not want to show her that you care about the fact she did not call.
 
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Originally posted by check_mate_kid_uk
you do not want to show her that you care about the fact she did not call.
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That's why you play the whole thing over the top, so that she doesn't take it seriously. A small, joking mention of interest doesn't make him an effeminate pansy, but it does regain all the ground he lost with her and places her once again in his pocket. ;)
 
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Originally posted by CyranoDeBergerac
That's why you play the whole thing over the top, so that she doesn't take it seriously. A small, joking mention of interest doesn't make him an effeminate pansy, but it does regain all the ground he lost with her and places her once again in his pocket. ;)
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yeh i see what you mean, i have said it before tongue in cheek, like "well you can make it up to me by taking me out for ice cream"
 
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