This is somthing that ive noticed works well for almost all social situations and especially with relationships. This rule also works with both males and females also.
For some reason people like to put expectations levels on others for whatever reason. in my experience i've noticed that these expectation levels can lead to disaster in relationships. Setting yourself up psycologically for dissapointment is typcally what happens. This is especially true when trying to pick up, date or persue a relationship with a female.
Girls typically want what they can't have. If you act too needy and desperate then it makes you look weak and they dont want that. If you act like you dont give a **** your chances increase however you dont want to be completely insensative and come off like a jerk. For some reason all women are attracted to some kind of "Bad Boy" but with a little bit of sensativity. So thus when dating or conversing with females the more your emotional expectations are left at 0 the better you can come off to them and the better your relationship will be (if that is what you're looking for)
In other words tell yourself it doesnt matter if she likes you or not or it doesnt matter if you get laid or not. Women have a way of picking up the "i wanna get laid" vibe very easily and can most of the time work against you. If you come off as though you dont give a **** weather you get laid or not (even though you really do) the woman is more likely to think you have enough confidence to not care one way or anything thus making you more attractive to them. You also appear more mysterious, they cant figure you out yet and that makes you more attractive also.
Showing interest is important on first contact however showing confidence is MORE important and is your key to success. Since our confidence as males is dependant on the ego the ego must be told that it doesnt matter what happens (keeping your expectation level at 0) and you're left to go either in the +'s or -'s
If you expect that you're not going ot get laid, or "shes out of my league" or "im too ugly for her" ect. then your results will most likely be just that. If you expect to get laid, and you already psycologically told your penis that hes going to be swimming tonight and it doenst happen your penis will be mad at you leaving your ego negatively affected. That leaves your confidence lower and women have a way of picking up on that. You then come off as too needy again. If you keep that expectation at 0 your hopes are less likey to be diminished and your ego is left in tact.
Even after you've been with a girl for a while the same rules apply. If you expect her to call you and she doesnt then you're left with dissapointment. If you expect her to like you or to even buy you a birthday gift and she doesnt, same thing. If you get rid of the psycological expectations alltogether then you have nothing left to disapoint yourself.
People will surprise you no matter what. Even your best friends. the less you expect out of them the less people's disapointing features will affect you.
For some reason people like to put expectations levels on others for whatever reason. in my experience i've noticed that these expectation levels can lead to disaster in relationships. Setting yourself up psycologically for dissapointment is typcally what happens. This is especially true when trying to pick up, date or persue a relationship with a female.
Girls typically want what they can't have. If you act too needy and desperate then it makes you look weak and they dont want that. If you act like you dont give a **** your chances increase however you dont want to be completely insensative and come off like a jerk. For some reason all women are attracted to some kind of "Bad Boy" but with a little bit of sensativity. So thus when dating or conversing with females the more your emotional expectations are left at 0 the better you can come off to them and the better your relationship will be (if that is what you're looking for)
In other words tell yourself it doesnt matter if she likes you or not or it doesnt matter if you get laid or not. Women have a way of picking up the "i wanna get laid" vibe very easily and can most of the time work against you. If you come off as though you dont give a **** weather you get laid or not (even though you really do) the woman is more likely to think you have enough confidence to not care one way or anything thus making you more attractive to them. You also appear more mysterious, they cant figure you out yet and that makes you more attractive also.
Showing interest is important on first contact however showing confidence is MORE important and is your key to success. Since our confidence as males is dependant on the ego the ego must be told that it doesnt matter what happens (keeping your expectation level at 0) and you're left to go either in the +'s or -'s
If you expect that you're not going ot get laid, or "shes out of my league" or "im too ugly for her" ect. then your results will most likely be just that. If you expect to get laid, and you already psycologically told your penis that hes going to be swimming tonight and it doenst happen your penis will be mad at you leaving your ego negatively affected. That leaves your confidence lower and women have a way of picking up on that. You then come off as too needy again. If you keep that expectation at 0 your hopes are less likey to be diminished and your ego is left in tact.
Even after you've been with a girl for a while the same rules apply. If you expect her to call you and she doesnt then you're left with dissapointment. If you expect her to like you or to even buy you a birthday gift and she doesnt, same thing. If you get rid of the psycological expectations alltogether then you have nothing left to disapoint yourself.
People will surprise you no matter what. Even your best friends. the less you expect out of them the less people's disapointing features will affect you.
This attitude has always worked for me and i found myself either going home and getting lucky or for sure getting laid on the first date.