True. Its that fine line between a bad boy and a sensative guy. Every woman wants a guy with both qualities. (that ive noticed) You have to show some interest of course but you can show interest in a woman without giving off a needy AFC vibe.
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leaving your expectation level at 0
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True. Its that fine line between a bad boy and a sensative guy. Every woman wants a guy with both qualities. (that ive noticed) You have to show some interest of course but you can show interest in a woman without giving off a needy AFC vibe.
B-Lemond
Master Don Juan
If you expect everything, you receive nothing.
If you expect nothing, you receive everything.
If you expect nothing, you receive everything.
ethnomethodologist
Master Don Juan
Wow!!!
It's like the smell of a bull but the size of a chihuahua!
That is a big pile of BS in a small package... like a burning bag of poo on my front steps...
Do you even know what you are saying blue or is that just your take on the subject? I'm telling you now your message isn't getting across in DJ terms.
I want the whole 9 yards from this topic. That was the straw that broke the camels back, that is just total bull right there, not even based on truth.
At least tell me which words to substitute if that was your purpose.
reyalp
Master Don Juan
Oddly enough, there's a parallel in the woman's world.
I started noticing that a lot of times when I'd take a girl home to my place, she was a few days past needing a shave. (Not bushy though)
I got curious and asked one, "What, do you only shave every two weeks, what's the deal?"
Her response: "I don't know, every time I shave and go out, I never get any, and it seems like the only time I get any is when I didn't shave. Every time I think for sure I'm going to get some and I take the time to shave, I don't get any."
I started asking other girls this, and it was very very common.
A crucial thing to remember is you can have loads of fun without a woman. You can be happy without a woman. If you can't be happy without one, what power do you have? What value do you have?
You're allowing them to partake in your fun and happiness, not the other way around. Because ultimately, you don't need her, and if you wanted to, you could replace her in no time.
I started noticing that a lot of times when I'd take a girl home to my place, she was a few days past needing a shave. (Not bushy though)
I got curious and asked one, "What, do you only shave every two weeks, what's the deal?"
Her response: "I don't know, every time I shave and go out, I never get any, and it seems like the only time I get any is when I didn't shave. Every time I think for sure I'm going to get some and I take the time to shave, I don't get any."
I started asking other girls this, and it was very very common.
A crucial thing to remember is you can have loads of fun without a woman. You can be happy without a woman. If you can't be happy without one, what power do you have? What value do you have?
You're allowing them to partake in your fun and happiness, not the other way around. Because ultimately, you don't need her, and if you wanted to, you could replace her in no time.
5 star post!!!
This is the mindset that will make all the difference to your sucess with women. It will not only help you maintain your confidence, but also help you relax and put them at ease.
Forget this idea that your date has to go perfect or you have to do/say the right thing, and just enjoy the date as if it is a one off occasion.
This is the mindset that pulled my GFs away from their boyfriends to be with me. The moment I lost it, raised my expectations and tried too hard was the moment it failed.
I currently hold this mindset permanently and have landed a hot girlfriend and have other chicks falling for me after only a few conversations.
Great advice Syncronic, which I can back up with my experiences too.
This is the mindset that will make all the difference to your sucess with women. It will not only help you maintain your confidence, but also help you relax and put them at ease.
Forget this idea that your date has to go perfect or you have to do/say the right thing, and just enjoy the date as if it is a one off occasion.
This is the mindset that pulled my GFs away from their boyfriends to be with me. The moment I lost it, raised my expectations and tried too hard was the moment it failed.
I currently hold this mindset permanently and have landed a hot girlfriend and have other chicks falling for me after only a few conversations.
Great advice Syncronic, which I can back up with my experiences too.
What happens, IN HER MIND, is that she comes to see you as WORTHLESS simply because she hasn't had to INVEST anything in you in order to get you or to keep you.
You were an interesting diversion while she had nothing else to do. But now that someone a little more valuable has come along, someone who expects her to treat him very well, she'll have no problem at all dropping you or demoting you to lowly "friendship" status.
Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.
B-Lemond
Master Don Juan
:crackup:
Open your
.The message is not literal. Maybe if you actually read the original post you might get it.
By the way, stop using this as your social outlet. You've been here for about a month and you already have 644 posts!
I went out with a girl i talked to for a few months on the internet (she lived in a different town and the first time I went to her town i was hanging out with friends and didn't hook up with her). Obviously I had bee talking with a few other prospects all this time too.
In any event we had some conversations on the phone that had turned ahem, sexual, and so I knew there would be a chance that when we met up things could happen but wasn't sure.
In any event I went to the town again with friends, invited her along and the hold time played it easy with low expections of course ( i surely didn't want to be disappointed).
She actually stated escalating by grabbing my hand, touching me etc. I talked to her in a sexy manner and I did a bit of push/pull (which honestly I didnt realize until she told me the next week).
I would at points talk to her and as the night wore on I'd get closer to her face when I talked but then back off (obviously talking closely in a loud club makes this easy)
She said it drove her wild and it was why she took me to the back part of the bar to make out. I had given her one short peck after saying "you look gorgeous" at the second bar of the night.
But other than that I had been backing off.
The zero expectations really means lack of neediness. This combined with a push/pull system that gets her hot and wanting more sends the proper mixed signals necessary for the lay.
In any event we had some conversations on the phone that had turned ahem, sexual, and so I knew there would be a chance that when we met up things could happen but wasn't sure.
In any event I went to the town again with friends, invited her along and the hold time played it easy with low expections of course ( i surely didn't want to be disappointed).
She actually stated escalating by grabbing my hand, touching me etc. I talked to her in a sexy manner and I did a bit of push/pull (which honestly I didnt realize until she told me the next week).
I would at points talk to her and as the night wore on I'd get closer to her face when I talked but then back off (obviously talking closely in a loud club makes this easy)
She said it drove her wild and it was why she took me to the back part of the bar to make out. I had given her one short peck after saying "you look gorgeous" at the second bar of the night.
But other than that I had been backing off.
The zero expectations really means lack of neediness. This combined with a push/pull system that gets her hot and wanting more sends the proper mixed signals necessary for the lay.
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I don't know man. I've been doing at that 0 expectation level for years, and I haven't been getting laid at all.
tmpgstx
Master Don Juan
I refer to this as the 'take it or leave attitude'. It makes you more attractive in that you have options or could if you wanted to.
Women are socially competitive creatures so social status in one form or another is very important as it indicates status to them.
It's called Hypergamy in Sociology. It's when all the females are looking to get with high status males while *beta* males get what's left over. Worse yet, some don't get any at all and resort to rape.
Getting laid is a need, not a want. You need to eat, you need to shyte and you need pvssy if you're straight. It's the most important thing on the planet to a straight man. You can tell youself you can do without it, but you ever notice how it keeps coming back to you that you need to get some?
It's a reward. Just like when you eat a steak, your salvery glands water before you're about take a bite. Your brain's reward system kicks in and those glands salivate. When you're about to stick your dyck in a girl's pvssy, the same thing occurs. Your glands salvate, the same reward system kicks in.
A guy getting alot to eat doesn't worry about getting food. A guy getting alot of pvssy doesn't worry about getting pvssy. The need is getting met.
Women are socially competitive creatures so social status in one form or another is very important as it indicates status to them.
It's called Hypergamy in Sociology. It's when all the females are looking to get with high status males while *beta* males get what's left over. Worse yet, some don't get any at all and resort to rape.
Getting laid is a need, not a want. You need to eat, you need to shyte and you need pvssy if you're straight. It's the most important thing on the planet to a straight man. You can tell youself you can do without it, but you ever notice how it keeps coming back to you that you need to get some?
It's a reward. Just like when you eat a steak, your salvery glands water before you're about take a bite. Your brain's reward system kicks in and those glands salivate. When you're about to stick your dyck in a girl's pvssy, the same thing occurs. Your glands salvate, the same reward system kicks in.
A guy getting alot to eat doesn't worry about getting food. A guy getting alot of pvssy doesn't worry about getting pvssy. The need is getting met.