"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

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Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

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So I've been nailing this girl for a couple months now. In a couple weeks we will be moving to seperate citys. The problem is I'mhaving trouble keeping my feelings out of the dynamic She's all I think about. In fact in the beginning the **** buddy arrangeent is what she wanted but now she catching feelings as well. Still though I am more into this emotionaly then I think she is.

How do I keep from having these intense feelings and possibly even flip the tables so she would have stronger feelings then me? I know guys are going to say spin more plates but i'm a pretty monogomous guy by nature. Plus I have allot work to do.

Well, it's been hard to concetrate on anything other then her, openn to any suggestions
 

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She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

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you should not have a fuk buddy if you like her. i had one last year but i knew from the start i didn't want anymore more. so it was an awesome time. im pretty sure she doesnt feel the same about you man. snap out of it, see other girls! she will probably dissapear if she finds out how you feel. i'd say make sure she actually really likes you before you start getting gooey on her. it's a tricky one man.
 
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LoneWolf said:
you should not have a fuk buddy if you like her. i had one last year but i knew from the start i didn't want anymore more. so it was an awesome time. im pretty sure she doesnt feel the same about you man. snap out of it, see other girls! she will probably dissapear if she finds out how you feel. i'd say make sure she actually really likes you before you start getting gooey on her. it's a tricky one man.
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How long did your ****buddy thing last (i wonder what the average is)? You guys just called eachother at night and ****ed? thats it? did she get jealous when you were with other girls or you get jealous when she was with other guys?

How can something like this last without some sort of structure established or feelings coming up?

As far as her feelings for me I only know that she has told me she has feelings which was an unsolicied statement, how else can i tell, what actions could i read that she couldn't hide?
 
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sosilky said:
How do I keep from having these intense feelings and possibly even flip the tables so she would have stronger feelings then me? I know guys are going to say spin more plates but i'm a pretty monogomous guy by nature. Plus I have allot work to do.
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Well, if you don't wanna spin more plates, you're gonna have to drop her cold turkey and go abstinent for a while. The more physical contact you have with this girl, the more your emotions will get the better of you.
 
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Well, if you don't wanna spin more plates, you're gonna have to drop her cold turkey and go abstinent for a while. The more physical contact you have with this girl, the more your emotions will get the better of you.
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Damn it! allright i'll sample some plates, any other advice?
 

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Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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sosilky said:
How long did your ****buddy thing last (i wonder what the average is)? You guys just called eachother at night and ****ed? thats it? did she get jealous when you were with other girls or you get jealous when she was with other guys?

How can something like this last without some sort of structure established or feelings coming up?

As far as her feelings for me I only know that she has told me she has feelings which was an unsolicied statement, how else can i tell, what actions could i read that she couldn't hide?
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actually we started off being friends because she said to me she just wanted to be friends cause she came out of a long relationship. i was having none of that because after a few weeks i just kissed her and we started fuking. another reason to not listen to what girls say :p - we actually hung out as friends too, not just for sex. i use to sleep over her house on weekends too and go out together. not always but sometimes. i sensed she started to like me at some point but she soon saw i didn't feel the same and knew i was seeing other girls. she stopped seeing me after 3 months and found another man (someone who wanted a relationship)
 
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