You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
are you fuking serious? pushing her on the metro and run off, kicking her out the car? ur a rude fuker, lol. you can still leave her wanting me without being a jerk you know?SandHawk said:What do you mean by that? Want for more what? Want for you? For sex?
The ideas are endless, but they all involve you removing yourself from the scene. I once gave my main plate a ride home, we made out in the car for 10 minutes in front of her house while I put on some cheesy 'romantic' music, and then kicked her out of the car. I sometimes, but not always, walk her to the metro station, make out and then push her off to catch a metro. If by wanting more you mean sex, make sure to shove your hands down her pants while you're dropping her off. I've more than once fingered her until she had soaking wet panties on the station platform, only to push her in the metro and then run off.
The trick is simple: Make sure you are in control of when you leave. However, don't leave unexpected, just announce it early on and then go, even(or esp.) if she begs you to stay.
There's a subtle difference here between being a jerk, and being extremely playful. I understand that my actions come off as being a jerk, but all of this is being playful with her. Telling her to get out of the car at 3:30 in the morning because I want to go to bed and she can't explain to her parents why she isn't sleeping home for the 4th time that week, results in me dropped her off and then tell her to get out.tony-montana said:are you fuking serious? pushing her on the metro and run off, kicking her out the car? ur a rude fuker, lol. you can still leave her wanting me without being a jerk you know?
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.