"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Learning to smile

viking22

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If you imagine a suave guy in your mind I'm sure the first thing you think of is an easy smile.

This is something I've always struggled with. Growing up I rarely smiled. I think this was mostly because I was shy and didn't like outwardly expressing my feelings, even good feelings, so I bottled them up. I think it is also partly because I think a lot and when you are concentrating hard it is natural to frown a little. So I tend to smile on the inside and people can't tell when im happy.

I try and force myself consciously to smile but it turns into a grimace as im straining. I also feel incredibly self conscious

Anyone got any tips for this or exercises to help develop a natural and habitual smile.

I wanna be one of those guys who naturally smiles all the time
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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War Against Betaism

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Look in the mirror and pick out a smile that you like. Just experiment with different faces. I've also had this problem because I grew up as a shy kid and never really smiled. When I started learning all this stuff, a smile was what I really needed, but I would never do it because I was insecure by how it would have looked since I've never done it before. So instead I would stand in the mirror, try out different smiles that I thought looked the best, and that's what I sticked with. Now I'm smiling almost all the time.
 

RazorAzoth

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Must be a common problem for shy people. I also feel weird smiling because I'm just not use to doing it.
 
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