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Does anyone know where i can read more on SS and NLP?
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
learning SS, NLP
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"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Don-Wan Kenobi
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SS = Speed Seduction, a product sold by Ross Jeffries.
He has his own website and mailing list that should come up in a search.
You could also search this forum and probably find the information you're looking for.
The main reason I'm replying is to tell you that I have used SS and although I do not contend to be any sort of expert, I'll confess that if I had the choice of being a Speed Seduction Wizard or of learning to be a natural DJ who can sort of just be himself and do well with women without resorting to tricks and gimmicks... I'd choose the latter without a doubt.
I think gimmicks allowed me to work around a certain degree of social inadequacy. If it will give you a boost, go for it but girls may start liking the gimmick instead of the person.
DWK
He has his own website and mailing list that should come up in a search.
You could also search this forum and probably find the information you're looking for.
The main reason I'm replying is to tell you that I have used SS and although I do not contend to be any sort of expert, I'll confess that if I had the choice of being a Speed Seduction Wizard or of learning to be a natural DJ who can sort of just be himself and do well with women without resorting to tricks and gimmicks... I'd choose the latter without a doubt.
I think gimmicks allowed me to work around a certain degree of social inadequacy. If it will give you a boost, go for it but girls may start liking the gimmick instead of the person.
DWK
thejuice
Master Don Juan
Read books on psychology, body language, and some poetry
The book on psychology will give you a basic understanding on how people think, associate feelings, etc.
The body language books speak for themselves
Poetry will help expand your vocabulary and tech you unique phrases or words that elicit feelings. Youll also develop a pattern of talking
You can then move into learning patterns
The book on psychology will give you a basic understanding on how people think, associate feelings, etc.
The body language books speak for themselves
Poetry will help expand your vocabulary and tech you unique phrases or words that elicit feelings. Youll also develop a pattern of talking
You can then move into learning patterns
oreo_renegade
Master Don Juan
NLP isnt a "gimmick," or some kind of trick you play on an unsuspecting person.
It is a tool that you learn, which you can use, abuse, misuse, same with anything else you learned.
NLP is just talking, a lot of people use NLP and not even realize it
Calling it a gimmick or a trick would be like calling the english language a trick for communicating.
Dont be silly
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Dell SkyCat
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As you read and get involved with NLP you will discover many enlightening aspects of your emotions with human behavior that are right under your nose all this time. However, let yourself be receptive to more tools as you add into your box. NLP shouldn't be the start and end of all, rather a way to pave the road ahead of you.
Also, there's a ton of resources where you can find information on NLP along with it's dozens upon dozens of web sites. Have an overview and skim through them so you can get the big picture. Some of it Crap...Some of it Gold Nuggets. Also IMO you will, as i have, come to the discovery that some aspects of NLP aren't going to be 100% accurate and just a waste of time.. Listen to your intuition. The most powerful tool you have in your arsenal is Visualization. Learn how NLP uses visualization. Personally, I have taken what is relevant to me and drop the rest
SkyCat
As you read and get involved with NLP you will discover many enlightening aspects of your emotions with human behavior that are right under your nose all this time. However, let yourself be receptive to more tools as you add into your box. NLP shouldn't be the start and end of all, rather a way to pave the road ahead of you.
Also, there's a ton of resources where you can find information on NLP along with it's dozens upon dozens of web sites. Have an overview and skim through them so you can get the big picture. Some of it Crap...Some of it Gold Nuggets. Also IMO you will, as i have, come to the discovery that some aspects of NLP aren't going to be 100% accurate and just a waste of time.. Listen to your intuition. The most powerful tool you have in your arsenal is Visualization. Learn how NLP uses visualization. Personally, I have taken what is relevant to me and drop the rest
SkyCat
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NLP involves, I think, the study of excelence. Certain things that 'successful' people do are basically noted, and these behaviors are noted and recorded, and assessed. At least that's my idea of it. So, anything that leads to excellence, no matter how trivial or complicated, is potentially part of NLP.
Correct me if I'm wrong, please.
SS- product of Ross Jeffries. Looks pretty promising. I have had success with it. Some stuff is free, some isn't. It's up to you to do what you want witht he material.
NLP- check out Bandler and Grinder. (authors) Also, Introducing NLP, and neurosemantics.com.
Correct me if I'm wrong, please.
SS- product of Ross Jeffries. Looks pretty promising. I have had success with it. Some stuff is free, some isn't. It's up to you to do what you want witht he material.
NLP- check out Bandler and Grinder. (authors) Also, Introducing NLP, and neurosemantics.com.
Don-Wan Kenobi
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I would have responded with exactly this while I studied SS.Originally posted by oreo_renegade
NLP isnt a "gimmick," or some kind of trick you play on an unsuspecting person.
It is a tool that you learn, which you can use, abuse, misuse, same with anything else you learned.
NLP is just talking, a lot of people use NLP and not even realize it
Calling it a gimmick or a trick would be like calling the english language a trick for communicating.
Dont be silly