"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Learning Martial Arts - Fitness

Rave18

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Is a person right when he says, “I’m not fit enough to (M.A's name) yet so I’m gonna go to a gym for x amount of months first” ?

I'm interested in Judo, but am not that fit and I don't want lack of fitness to be a reason for enrolling and quitting. What should I do ?

Thanks in advance.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Rubirosa

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The gym thing is just an excuse. Just go and do Judo if that's what you want to try. In Judo, you'll probably start out by learning how to fall correctly anyway.
 

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I just discovered Baguazhang for beginners on YouTube in HD with Jake Mase and the guy rocks. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2ir69i-qAsI

I was about to join a martial arts studio near my home for Tai Chi, but after talking to the owner of the m.a. school, he told me they wanted committed fighters with some background in martial arts. He only had about ten students per class and wanting to interview/pre-screen me before I could join. As of right now, he said I could watch classes but wouldn't be able to participate without beginner's experience. His average student had 3-5 years experience. I give the guy credit though for introducing me to Baguazhang. So I'm going to watch Jake's videos and practice before consider joining a m.a. school.

That's the great thing about the internet, if you have an internet connection, decent bandwidth you can learn most martial arts form by watching and practicing. Watch an experienced martial arts form, pause and resume to master the mirroring mechanics of body movement so you don't injure yourself. Stretch/warm up before you start the Judo regime to prevent injury.

Martial arts are actually lot like lifting weights in the gym, you don't just walk up and mirror the biggest most bad@ss dude in the gym. You got to learn how to walk before you can run. Start with the basics and once you feel comfortable add more complex moves in Judo.

When you're ready and want to start sparing with other fighters, you can join a gym/dojo/martial arts studio, etc.

I'm in the process of doing this myself. I did mixed martial arts ten years ago and worked up to a yellow belt before I quit. I'm starting back up again and am going to use my garage space for space and movement. I need to get rubber mats to protect my joints and feet, maybe a mirror to boot, but we'll see.

Good luck with your Judo journey.
 

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Judo shouldn't be that strenuous. You'll mostly do throws, break falls, trips and sweeps. It is the art of depriving your opponent of his balance, while maintaining your own. The idea behind that involves a survival mechanism of the body - when you lose your balance and feel like you are about to fall, all of your body's energy will be directed at re-gaining that balance, making it nearly impossible to fight. As long as your opponent stays off-balance, he can't hurt you.

Judo can be hard on a person's back, from landing on the mat a lot after getting thrown. But if you don't already have back problems, you should be fine.

Judo isn't seen a lot in MMA. The padded mat and controlled environment negates the value of being able to throw someone down. However, real life fights typically don't occur without hard surfaces being around, or ledges, or pointy things that would hurt to fall on, or large windows to get thrown through. Being able to throw your opponent is a huge advantage in a real fight.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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