"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Learning Martial Arts - Fitness

Rave18

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Is a person right when he says, “I’m not fit enough to (M.A's name) yet so I’m gonna go to a gym for x amount of months first” ?

I'm interested in Judo, but am not that fit and I don't want lack of fitness to be a reason for enrolling and quitting. What should I do ?

Thanks in advance.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Rubirosa

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The gym thing is just an excuse. Just go and do Judo if that's what you want to try. In Judo, you'll probably start out by learning how to fall correctly anyway.
 

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I just discovered Baguazhang for beginners on YouTube in HD with Jake Mase and the guy rocks. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2ir69i-qAsI

I was about to join a martial arts studio near my home for Tai Chi, but after talking to the owner of the m.a. school, he told me they wanted committed fighters with some background in martial arts. He only had about ten students per class and wanting to interview/pre-screen me before I could join. As of right now, he said I could watch classes but wouldn't be able to participate without beginner's experience. His average student had 3-5 years experience. I give the guy credit though for introducing me to Baguazhang. So I'm going to watch Jake's videos and practice before consider joining a m.a. school.

That's the great thing about the internet, if you have an internet connection, decent bandwidth you can learn most martial arts form by watching and practicing. Watch an experienced martial arts form, pause and resume to master the mirroring mechanics of body movement so you don't injure yourself. Stretch/warm up before you start the Judo regime to prevent injury.

Martial arts are actually lot like lifting weights in the gym, you don't just walk up and mirror the biggest most bad@ss dude in the gym. You got to learn how to walk before you can run. Start with the basics and once you feel comfortable add more complex moves in Judo.

When you're ready and want to start sparing with other fighters, you can join a gym/dojo/martial arts studio, etc.

I'm in the process of doing this myself. I did mixed martial arts ten years ago and worked up to a yellow belt before I quit. I'm starting back up again and am going to use my garage space for space and movement. I need to get rubber mats to protect my joints and feet, maybe a mirror to boot, but we'll see.

Good luck with your Judo journey.
 

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Judo shouldn't be that strenuous. You'll mostly do throws, break falls, trips and sweeps. It is the art of depriving your opponent of his balance, while maintaining your own. The idea behind that involves a survival mechanism of the body - when you lose your balance and feel like you are about to fall, all of your body's energy will be directed at re-gaining that balance, making it nearly impossible to fight. As long as your opponent stays off-balance, he can't hurt you.

Judo can be hard on a person's back, from landing on the mat a lot after getting thrown. But if you don't already have back problems, you should be fine.

Judo isn't seen a lot in MMA. The padded mat and controlled environment negates the value of being able to throw someone down. However, real life fights typically don't occur without hard surfaces being around, or ledges, or pointy things that would hurt to fall on, or large windows to get thrown through. Being able to throw your opponent is a huge advantage in a real fight.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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