"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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well, what can i say. Experience is definatly the best teacher. I've had this girl into me for a good month or so, but never asked her out even though i knew i wanted to. So anyway, when i went up to do it today, she was so pissed at waiting so long for me, she basically said i dont have time to waste, go away.

so, i learned one thing at least: Never hesitate or wait, and even though ive read it before on this site, it comes through much better when you've experienced it.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Originally posted by TinyFzzyKiwi
well, what can i say. Experience is definatly the best teacher. I've had this girl into me for a good month or so, but never asked her out even though i knew i wanted to. So anyway, when i went up to do it today, she was so pissed at waiting so long for me, she basically said i dont have time to waste, go away.

so, i learned one thing at least: Never hesitate or wait, and even though ive read it before on this site, it comes through much better when you've experienced it.
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What the hell was stopping you??
 
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not exactly sure really, fear of not knowing what to say maybe, fear of the unknown, of change.

Then 2 weeks ago i had asked if she wanted to go to a movie, but she was busy.

then last week, she hintd that she wasnt doing anything this past weekend. But i didnt really think anything about it. monday thru wednsday, never even crossed my mind asking her again, cus i thought that asking her to the movie qualified. So, basicly, those first 3 days of the week, i figrd, hey, were basicly goin out,
so i dont have to ask her. Then im talkin to a friend of mine on thursday, and figure out that ****, i still have to ask her, not gona go into detail on that part. So thursday, she slept in class, no way i could ask her then, and then friday, not sure what happened. Monday, didnt talk to her, tuesday i think it was, she came over and sat with us and was sorta punchin me n all like she used to. So i think that basically was my last chance, and i didnt take it.

So i ****d myself over by not doin what i shuldve and wanted to do.
 
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Originally posted by TinyFzzyKiwi
So anyway, when i went up to do it today, she was so pissed at waiting so long for me, she basically said i dont have time to waste, go away.
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In the gaming industry, this is called getting pwnt. Hehe, you got pwnt.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Originally posted by TinyFzzyKiwi
i sure did, but it wasnt a failure.
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Thats the right attitude.

Now go learn 300 more lessons, it's not hard.
 
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Originally posted by TinyFzzyKiwi
well, what can i say. Experience is definatly the best teacher. I've had this girl into me for a good month or so, but never asked her out even though i knew i wanted to. So anyway, when i went up to do it today, she was so pissed at waiting so long for me, she basically said i dont have time to waste, go away.

so, i learned one thing at least: Never hesitate or wait, and even though ive read it before on this site, it comes through much better when you've experienced it.
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unfortunatly this has happened to me on sevral occasions that a girl likes me and i leave it to long and she looses intrest.
 
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nothing you can do about it except live and learn. Oh well, class was fun today, was talkin to a friend of mine, who's also a really good friend of hers. He was saying that she said no to me because i didnt use proper grammer. or that was part of it anyway. WTF? high school is to messed up
 
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She just doesn't like you, get over it.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Re: Re: learned my first lesson

Originally posted by check_mate_kid_uk
unfortunatly this has happened to me on sevral occasions that a girl likes me and i leave it to long and she looses intrest.
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why has it happened more than once?

what are you waiting for? how many opportunities do you have to miss out on before you realize that you don't like being celibate?

you should only make a mistake one time. if you don't learn from it, than you're too dense to be worth helping.
 
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Re: Re: Re: learned my first lesson

Originally posted by Porky
why has it happened more than once?

what are you waiting for? how many opportunities do you have to miss out on before you realize that you don't like being celibate?

you should only make a mistake one time. if you don't learn from it, than you're too dense to be worth helping.
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because sometimes its nto as easy to overcome things especialy if you try and look for positive signals before making a move. When i said on sevral occasions, that was before i came to the site, there was one whilst i have been on the site and there is 1 at current which i am trying to get and have talked to, os have not lost her but i agree i need to hury up!
 
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the lesson streak continues...

was talking to a friend today, discussing all of it. my second lesson is dont stop with the c&f after you got a bite.

he was saying that she got fed up with waiting and got bored. after the begining, i became less ****y, stopped screwin around so much. So, don't stop being fun, it'll just screw ya in the end. In my case, she got tired of waiting cus i was no longer fun to be with.

only 299 more to go sammo, hehe
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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