Shootin4Dreams
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Any teachers or books for this? So i know-how to talk to a girl proper non feminie way
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Learn masculine way of speaking
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"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
dustmuffin
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Speak slowly with few words....don't explain yourself
BeExcellent
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Masculine = decisive
I listen when the man is direct. Deliberate in both speech and action. Wishy washy unable to make a decision is a major turn off.
Some men are more talkative naturally than others. Do not squelch who you are (or who you are evolving into) by acting unnaturally.
Have a plan, be direct, and be genuine. Lead and see how she follows your lead.
Worst first date question ever uttered by a man to a woman is:
"So what do you feel like tonight?"
For general conversational skills get The Fine Art of Small Talk. Conversation skills will raise your confidence and ease in social settings. People at ease who are enjoying themselves are attractive people.
I listen when the man is direct. Deliberate in both speech and action. Wishy washy unable to make a decision is a major turn off.
Some men are more talkative naturally than others. Do not squelch who you are (or who you are evolving into) by acting unnaturally.
Have a plan, be direct, and be genuine. Lead and see how she follows your lead.
Worst first date question ever uttered by a man to a woman is:
"So what do you feel like tonight?"
For general conversational skills get The Fine Art of Small Talk. Conversation skills will raise your confidence and ease in social settings. People at ease who are enjoying themselves are attractive people.
JohnChops
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I agree, and don't. Naturally I talk and flirt with everyone but I can get too hyped up/energetic from time to time. I think having a good balance of being relaxed, calmer tone, works a bit better in certain situations. If you're the one doing most of the talking to keep the convo going, then you reveal too much about yourself and learn nothing about the female in front of you.
CuddleJunkie
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I don't remember the exact programs/videos/books where this was talked about, but I can point you in the right direction.
1. Jason Capital: he talks (maybe in "Storytelling God") about how to project your voice; but I know that the RSD guys talk about this too.
2. Julien Blanc: in PIMP he talks about breaking rapport better than in this video, but anyhow here it is
. Basically don't use a "questioning" tone, you know what I mean? Don't make your tone higher as you are speaking.
3. Assertiveness. Explore your belief system, destroy that what it's not part of you or makes you weaker, build that that makes you stronger. Once you do this, and start acting accordingly, you will be assertive as ****, as you will be sure of what you are saying.
4. Tone of voice. Nothing you can do if you have a high pitch, just deal with it. Mike from GorillaMIndset has a really high pitched voice and he doesn't give a ****, and you end up forgetting about it.
5. Trump. Learn about how Trump speaks, and use it moderatly, if you are not the SupremeGodEmperorOf****lordly he is, it could backfire. But it is useful in small doses.
Edit: I forgot something really important.
6. Use assumptions instead of questions. Of course, not all the time, but you want to do this specially in the beginning of the interaction. "So you study law" instead of "What do you do", if you are not confident enough to pull this out yet, you can say "so you look like you love arts" or something this general, instead of asking "what are your hobbies".
Good luck brother.
1. Jason Capital: he talks (maybe in "Storytelling God") about how to project your voice; but I know that the RSD guys talk about this too.
2. Julien Blanc: in PIMP he talks about breaking rapport better than in this video, but anyhow here it is
3. Assertiveness. Explore your belief system, destroy that what it's not part of you or makes you weaker, build that that makes you stronger. Once you do this, and start acting accordingly, you will be assertive as ****, as you will be sure of what you are saying.
4. Tone of voice. Nothing you can do if you have a high pitch, just deal with it. Mike from GorillaMIndset has a really high pitched voice and he doesn't give a ****, and you end up forgetting about it.
5. Trump. Learn about how Trump speaks, and use it moderatly, if you are not the SupremeGodEmperorOf****lordly he is, it could backfire. But it is useful in small doses.
Edit: I forgot something really important.
6. Use assumptions instead of questions. Of course, not all the time, but you want to do this specially in the beginning of the interaction. "So you study law" instead of "What do you do", if you are not confident enough to pull this out yet, you can say "so you look like you love arts" or something this general, instead of asking "what are your hobbies".
Good luck brother.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
ImTheDoubleGreatest!
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Rougher, gruffer, not necessarily more raspy, but you need to feel like you are powerful. The high school section has a thread stickied that actually is the only thread that mentions this. You don't need to read the whole thing, but a lot of it applies to your life in general, not just to high school kids. Here's the link:
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/index.php?threads/complete-guide-to-self-improvement.43048/
He has a section titled voice and he quotes it. You need to get to your sympathetic frequency/harmonic motion. Sammo explains how.
Speaking of which, does anyone know what happened to him?
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/index.php?threads/complete-guide-to-self-improvement.43048/
He has a section titled voice and he quotes it. You need to get to your sympathetic frequency/harmonic motion. Sammo explains how.
Speaking of which, does anyone know what happened to him?
