Shootin4Dreams
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Any teachers or books for this? So i know-how to talk to a girl proper non feminie way
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Learn masculine way of speaking
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"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
dustmuffin
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Speak slowly with few words....don't explain yourself
BeExcellent
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Masculine = decisive
I listen when the man is direct. Deliberate in both speech and action. Wishy washy unable to make a decision is a major turn off.
Some men are more talkative naturally than others. Do not squelch who you are (or who you are evolving into) by acting unnaturally.
Have a plan, be direct, and be genuine. Lead and see how she follows your lead.
Worst first date question ever uttered by a man to a woman is:
"So what do you feel like tonight?"
For general conversational skills get The Fine Art of Small Talk. Conversation skills will raise your confidence and ease in social settings. People at ease who are enjoying themselves are attractive people.
I listen when the man is direct. Deliberate in both speech and action. Wishy washy unable to make a decision is a major turn off.
Some men are more talkative naturally than others. Do not squelch who you are (or who you are evolving into) by acting unnaturally.
Have a plan, be direct, and be genuine. Lead and see how she follows your lead.
Worst first date question ever uttered by a man to a woman is:
"So what do you feel like tonight?"
For general conversational skills get The Fine Art of Small Talk. Conversation skills will raise your confidence and ease in social settings. People at ease who are enjoying themselves are attractive people.
JohnChops
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I agree, and don't. Naturally I talk and flirt with everyone but I can get too hyped up/energetic from time to time. I think having a good balance of being relaxed, calmer tone, works a bit better in certain situations. If you're the one doing most of the talking to keep the convo going, then you reveal too much about yourself and learn nothing about the female in front of you.
CuddleJunkie
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I don't remember the exact programs/videos/books where this was talked about, but I can point you in the right direction.
1. Jason Capital: he talks (maybe in "Storytelling God") about how to project your voice; but I know that the RSD guys talk about this too.
2. Julien Blanc: in PIMP he talks about breaking rapport better than in this video, but anyhow here it is
. Basically don't use a "questioning" tone, you know what I mean? Don't make your tone higher as you are speaking.
3. Assertiveness. Explore your belief system, destroy that what it's not part of you or makes you weaker, build that that makes you stronger. Once you do this, and start acting accordingly, you will be assertive as ****, as you will be sure of what you are saying.
4. Tone of voice. Nothing you can do if you have a high pitch, just deal with it. Mike from GorillaMIndset has a really high pitched voice and he doesn't give a ****, and you end up forgetting about it.
5. Trump. Learn about how Trump speaks, and use it moderatly, if you are not the SupremeGodEmperorOf****lordly he is, it could backfire. But it is useful in small doses.
Edit: I forgot something really important.
6. Use assumptions instead of questions. Of course, not all the time, but you want to do this specially in the beginning of the interaction. "So you study law" instead of "What do you do", if you are not confident enough to pull this out yet, you can say "so you look like you love arts" or something this general, instead of asking "what are your hobbies".
Good luck brother.
1. Jason Capital: he talks (maybe in "Storytelling God") about how to project your voice; but I know that the RSD guys talk about this too.
2. Julien Blanc: in PIMP he talks about breaking rapport better than in this video, but anyhow here it is
3. Assertiveness. Explore your belief system, destroy that what it's not part of you or makes you weaker, build that that makes you stronger. Once you do this, and start acting accordingly, you will be assertive as ****, as you will be sure of what you are saying.
4. Tone of voice. Nothing you can do if you have a high pitch, just deal with it. Mike from GorillaMIndset has a really high pitched voice and he doesn't give a ****, and you end up forgetting about it.
5. Trump. Learn about how Trump speaks, and use it moderatly, if you are not the SupremeGodEmperorOf****lordly he is, it could backfire. But it is useful in small doses.
Edit: I forgot something really important.
6. Use assumptions instead of questions. Of course, not all the time, but you want to do this specially in the beginning of the interaction. "So you study law" instead of "What do you do", if you are not confident enough to pull this out yet, you can say "so you look like you love arts" or something this general, instead of asking "what are your hobbies".
Good luck brother.
“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
ImTheDoubleGreatest!
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Rougher, gruffer, not necessarily more raspy, but you need to feel like you are powerful. The high school section has a thread stickied that actually is the only thread that mentions this. You don't need to read the whole thing, but a lot of it applies to your life in general, not just to high school kids. Here's the link:
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/index.php?threads/complete-guide-to-self-improvement.43048/
He has a section titled voice and he quotes it. You need to get to your sympathetic frequency/harmonic motion. Sammo explains how.
Speaking of which, does anyone know what happened to him?
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/index.php?threads/complete-guide-to-self-improvement.43048/
He has a section titled voice and he quotes it. You need to get to your sympathetic frequency/harmonic motion. Sammo explains how.
Speaking of which, does anyone know what happened to him?
