"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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I have been reading about body language all week. the gurus say when conversing with someone - to not lean in or "peck". I found that I had to do this last night at the bar because it was literally so loud that I could not hear. I mean - I don't know why showing dominance makes me feel like a social robot - but if I have to worry about stuff like that then I do feel like a social robot. I don't really care if leaning in is "submissive" - cause I have good self-confidence. I mean if I wanna hear a girl then I want to hear.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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instead of leaning in, stand by her side, look at the crowd ... but make sure u turn your head every now and then to show her that your listening.
Make sure you take a whiff of the hair
 
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The whole purpose of leaning away is to lure her into you. It's done in a way that's so smooth the girl doesn't realize that she's leaning towards you to speak.

In a bar situation, I usually start the conversation off with me saying something, then immediately pulling away a bit so that she has to lean in to tell me her response. At this point, I continue leaning away, and say my next statement which forces her to remain pulled into me.

If she continues this for a couple of exchanges, I reward her by leaning in a little. If she responds well to me leaning in, then I'll try to kiss close. Sooner the better.
 
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