"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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roja

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for someone who never was in leadership position

how can we get leadership experience

i am asking for small leadership roles that anyone can do

have a goal ,have people contribute towards this while leading/organising
all of this

like a volunteer activity or any other suggestions ?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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looks like all are leaders here ?

leaders have absolute confidence (should be able to lead others ,cant do without confidence)

there are like doctors/musicians etc who dont need to have leadership
as they have social status

for those who have absolute confidence in yourself and your life
Any one of you work for someone else

you can be best Teacher/Engineer still have to work under boss/their budget goals

Leadership=confidence
maybe innergame=confidence ?

is absolute confidence possible without being leader
 

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roja said:
for someone who never was in leadership position

how can we get leadership experience

i am asking for small leadership roles that anyone can do

have a goal ,have people contribute towards this while leading/organising
all of this

like a volunteer activity or any other suggestions ?
You can start easily by getting together a group of like minded individuals and doing something. Perhaps you could get 5 guys and 5 girls together and go out to eat or see a movie. If that's not in your budget, then you can go even cheaper and set up a group outing to watch fireworks or attend/host a party on New Years eve.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Leadership

Many books are available at the library and online that will help you understand leadership. Here's one that I've read and enjoyed:

http://search.barnesandnoble.com/booksearch/isbninquiry.asp?ean=9780471327288
 

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leadership is guiding or influencing people toward a common goal, taking full accountability. it's one of the most useful people skills to learn because you end up seeing the best and worst in people

don't confuse this with absolute power, which is what you're equating with confidence. you shouldn't have to control everything to feel confident

also ER!C LIVE has good advice. just taking full accountability for a night out with the homies is a good way to learn
other ideas:
- if you in school still, get an officer position at a club
- if you got a talent, IE music, start a band
- management positions at work

I'll also add, since this is a pimp board, the dynamics of most relationships is that the girl WANTS you to lead, plan the night, etc. They want to feel comfortable when YOU'RE in control
 

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went to toastmasters was good ,can see all my anxiety in front of people :)
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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