She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Fantastic sir! I've enjoyed my 44" plasma immensely. I can say WITH CERTAINTY that the optical cable (HDMI cable) makes a world of difference, especially if you play DVDs through a player that is not enabled for HD. They're a bit pricey (about $100 US) but well worth the money spent. Get the cable.DavenJuan said:
MY DVD player isnt HD nor does it have a component input either. how do you hook up a dvd player that isnt enabled for HD to a HDTV?Magma said:Fantastic sir! I've enjoyed my 44" plasma immensely. I can say WITH CERTAINTY that the optical cable (HDMI cable) makes a world of difference, especially if you play DVDs through a player that is not enabled for HD. They're a bit pricey (about $100 US) but well worth the money spent. Get the cable.
Blunt was true.bigjohnson said:
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Magma said:Fantastic sir! I've enjoyed my 44" plasma immensely. I can say WITH CERTAINTY that the optical cable (HDMI cable) makes a world of difference, especially if you play DVDs through a player that is not enabled for HD. They're a bit pricey (about $100 US) but well worth the money spent. Get the cable.
Go out and buy an up converting dvd player, theyre not too expensive. You can get one for 60 -80$.DavenJuan said:
oakraiderz2 said:
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
It depends on the source you use. Up converting DVD player will up convert from 480i/480p/720p to 1080i max, but with a blu ray player youll get the full 1080p. If you dont feel like shelling out 350$ for blu ray, an up converting dvd player will run you about 80, even less depending on what you buy. Also, tv shows arent in 1080p (doubt they told you that) yet, just 1080i. Its gonna be another 2-3 years until thye cast full HD. You dont need a 100-200$ HDMI cable, buy one from RCA for 60 or one from phillips for about 80. PS3 and im pretty sure XBOX work with 1080p.DavenJuan said:
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
The red ring of death is unfortunately not a myth with it.DavenJuan said:
I highly doubt that. Its ludacris to believe that the best blu ray player has been made and that none will superceed it. However, its a better deal cause you get to play madden and COD4 and f*ck sh*t up.Maxtro said:
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.