"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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lasts nights date (one-i-tis)

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first off she called me about 430 before work..we talked for 20 min....then set plans to see 4 brothers.


later 10:13 pm..i phoned her..talked till i got there at 10:17....she gave me a picture of her with chicago cubs stuff on..she took in chi-town...im a die hard cards fan...so she framed it..thought it would be funny. it was a great moment and it was funny!


we left at 1030...watched the movie till 1245...got to her house..sat in my car..till 145.(talked, kissed, touchin, talking about how great it is and lucky we are) just giving affection..got out of car...hugged and kissed....and said i love you for the 10th time that night. made plans for saturday and monday.

left at 155.


so with my massive case of ONE-I-TIS...

weve been together for 3 months.....I figure the deep love she is falling into for me will end in 2 weeks..since I have One-i-tis and she will instantly lose her feelings for me...even though she loves, respects, and thinks im a very confident powerful man. but since i show her i love her immensly she will for sure leave me...i should tell her I want other women..or make myself scarse for a week to prevent this..but since I have, well u guessed it ONE-I-tis....i tell her and show her i love her and she is the one for me.

i will let u know when my bad case of one-i-tis ruins this..I predict 2 weeks.

:D
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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we all learn from our mistakes. Same thing will probably hapen to me to. And i'll pobably do the same thing your about to do, knowing the result...

sometimes you just got smack your face against the wall before you accept the truth...;) Let us know haw it goes.
 

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I hope you get the massive Sarcastic overtones of my post.

its amazing the brainwashing that has gone on to some of you.
 

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dude, he's just joking.

he's saying that it's okay to be in love...especially since he is/has been

...and that not everything in the djb should be taken at face value...it's all relative

good for you friv...we're all happy for you :D
 

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Where does the djb say love is bad?

If it doesn't, all you guys need to stop acting like it does.

Love is *not* one-itis

Period, end of story.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Great job, saw the subject of this post and it created so much anger that I apilt bong water all over me.

Listen, one-i-tis is not the thing you want. It does not mean "love" for someone. A oneitits means that you are obsessive and a stalker, because you think you CANT live without them.

Although from your post you realize that you are becoming these qualities, but half the problem is solved becaused you realized it.

Cut back on all the "I love yous" , make some challenges and create SOME mystery. Put these all back in forth while going out, nothing big and not very numerous.

In picture turms, when she goes to hug you push her back just alittle bit, but just enough so she cant quite touch you and slide away and make her chase you.
 

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I am joking....I dont have 0ne-I-tis!
Yes you do, I have the IM messages to prove it...

Ok maybe I don't...

frivolousz21, the champion of Love.

Cheers!
 
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