"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Last week in college...any chance for a relationship with a freshman?

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Hello fellow DJs, the last relationship I have with a girl is 2 years ago...after that my life just revolves around college and computer:(

2 weeks ago, I saw a girl in my college library and I know she is a freshman...I felt something I haven't feel in years--"LOVE AT FIRST SIGHT"?
We made eyecontact and I can tell somehow she is interested too.

Anyway, I hesitated and didn't make a spontaneuos move. Now that I am having my final exam in one week time and I hang out in the library 24/7, but can't seem to see her again.

After the final exam, there is no reason for me to go college anymore...I just have to wait for my graduation ceremony...

I am Sooooo regret now that I missed the opportunity that day. I feel so infatuated and I cant concentrate on my studies now. Any suggestion for me? Should I go to the library every day after my exam just to try wheter I can see her again? or should I just chill and let God decide my fate?

Please help me out.....I couldn't stop thinking about her....:mad:
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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nah man study, get a good grade on that test. Don;t go waiting in the library for some chick. After your test you should be out celebrating the your done with college. IF you run into her again make a move, if not so be it.

Graduating college is a big deal, some freshmen chick you gave you a look is not.


Just my 2 cents



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You're infatuated with a girl because you made eye contact with her?

Dude, you need to get out more.
 
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And this girl has done WHAT to deserve this kind of instant affection? Look good? There are THOUSANDS of good-looking women out there. Your affection (or "love" as you blasphemously call it) is worth more than that. Whether you're attracted to her or not, don't give up your heart so easily.

Get a grip on your emotions, would you? You're border-line obsessive going back to the library every day in the hopes of running into her. Chicks don't go to the library to hang out. They go to study every once in a while. It'd be like seeing her walking out of a hair salon and then going to get your hair cut every day hoping she'll come back. Creepy.

You know what'll happen if you start hanging out at the library...if you DO see her again, you'll have all these fantasies built up inside your head about how she is and how wonderful the two of you will be, and you'll be so afraid of her being different than you expected that you won't even talk to her. And if you do, you'll be disappointed and realized you've wasted valuable time off your life doing something STUPID and try to make up for it by completely AFCing all over this girl.

Next time, talk to her.

Blienk is right. You need to get out more.
 
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i understand but i cant control myself

I have been going out often and have seen beautiful chicks all around but neither have this strong feeling I have towards this girl...

I hope there's still a chance of meeting her but i won't go there just to meet her....thanks for the advice and wish me luck, okay?:cool:
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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dont waste your time, man. by this time, you should have studied already. if you see her, say hi make up something like you never got here name. whatever.

dont be like me. im regretting up until this very moment.
 
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DJ Alejandro

DJ Alejandro, what happened? and how old are you now?:(
 
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