"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Lass laments that lads don't like to pay for dates anymore
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- Start date
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
wifehunter
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PeasantPlayer
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wifehunter
Master Don Juan
Cry some more!
devilkingx2
Master Don Juan
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Slash Dolo
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WitnessGR
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When I really began to produce, (gym memberships, exxc. activities and going out more) I learned the true value of money, not just of having it, but what I can do with it. This is when I withdrew myself from the game.
Treat your money how you treat your money. You don't just give it away, exchanging it for no food or no service. If you are spending your own money, make sure you get some benefit out of it.
TheMonkeyKing
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True thing.
I think there is a fairly new issue insomuch as there are a more dangerous breed of white knights who are learning a bit of game and applying a bit of theory that suits them, stuff that is convenient (like, not paying for dates), and just making themselves look even more pathetic than they already are by not having the persona to back up the power play.
TheCuckSlayer
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Beautiful, sane women who don't expect to be handed things on a silver platter are out there. After all, the whole reason we're here is so that we can find them and fwck them
