Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
MojoPUA said:
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
God_of_getting_layed said:The sucky part about this is that these guys really arent PUAs.
MOst of these guys are frauds. David D aint a PUA, ROss Jeffires aint a PUA, gunwitch aint a PUA, I could go on. Id be embarrassed If I got the kind of women these guys actually get. Most these guys are just freaks trying to sell their PUA theories.
So No Deus, THese guys are NOT evidence against a looks matter theory. Nice try though.
Oh god, when will the looks dont matterists provide some credible evidence? when hell freezes over maybe?
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
How the f.uck would you know that? Plz don't post yourown beliefs as facts.God_of_getting_layed said:The sucky part about this is that these guys really arent PUAs.
MOst of these guys are frauds. David D aint a PUA, ROss Jeffires aint a PUA, gunwitch aint a PUA,
Why would I want to put a guy on a pedestal just because he's good with women?MojoPUA said:
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
never said they dont get laid. Youre putting words in my mouth. I said theyre not PUAs. YOu can get layed and NOT be a PUA, ie have sex with women who are NOT good looking.GoSens said:To God_of_getting_layed, the evidence is in those Pua pics (they're all hardly good looking). If you don't want to believe these guys get laid, then thats your problem.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.