"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Lars147

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Hey guys, recently I've met a group of three Chinese girls with my friends. After about four outings with all six of us, I got the impression that one of the girls is interested in me (lot's of eye contact, always sitting next to me, always offering me to try her drink, the other girls making jokes about the two of us being together). So, one day I ask her out to see a school performance that most of the highschool has been talking about during the week. Only thing was that she didn't understand my English and didn't figure out that it was a date, and invited her friends and my friends along as well. 'Cause the thing is, she has the worst English speaking skills of the three, and the other two have to basically translate what I say whenever I talk to her. So, I'm wondering how I can get with a girl that can hardly understand me? Anyone have any experience with something like this?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Uncommon problem.
Try action. They all understand that language. :))
 

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So I've been living in China for 2 years now. So some advice, her reading skills and writing are probably 10x better than her speaking skills.
So get that number and text her. You'll find she can be much more responsive through this, and Chinese girls are known for being shy so it'd be easier for her to talk through messages.

If you really want to impress her, learn about China, the culture, ask her where she's from and research that place. In China, every province is different, each province speaks different, has different food, etc.

And download an instant messenger program called "QQ" you can find it on im.qq.com. Nearly 90% of Chinese people use QQ. It's like China's facebook. Then one day say, hey do you have QQ? Can I get your QQ number? She'll be so surprised. Then you two can chat on that outside of class.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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