"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Lame text?

TheWolfMan

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Met a girl at a bar over the weekend, we hit it off and I scored her number. Hit her up the next day and asked if she had fun, she said she did, I said good that's what I like to hear and then left it at that. I was thinking of sending this tomorrow "Hey ___, we should meet up or chill sometime. Just throwin that out there" is this lame? Her interest level was pretty high when we met, but I figured I'd let it sit a couple days before I hit her up again so I don't know where it's at right now. Or should I just ask what she's doing on X day then say well we should meet up. Yeah I know I'm over-analyzing.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Uncharted

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Try calling, but if you must text:

You: hey xx it's (your name) what are you up to
HB: blah blah
You: haha cool - lets get drinks this week, i'm free on Tuesday/Thursday which is better for you?

Done
 

JoeMarron

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Send her a text teasing her about something you guys talked about at the bar. That'll remind her of the good emotions she felt with you. Then simply ask her out. "Lets chill at (so and so) at (so and so time)." Escalate, isolate her, bang, then give us the lay report
 
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