"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Ladder theory
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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Kwah
Master Don Juan
Can anyone else not go to that site cause its censored?
DrMetallica
Master Don Juan
They are just pissed-off AFC's
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Evil-Rom
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I remember reading that before I came to this site.
Though it was total BS.
I think otherwise now.
Though it was total BS.
I think otherwise now.
CableLight
Master Don Juan
I just read this off of a link from College Humor
http://www.intellectual*****s.com/masterladder.html
(the part that is probably going to be cencored by the filter is wh0res...as in intellectualwh0res with the 0 being replaced by an o)
If you haven't read it, I'd suggest doing so. It's pretty F'in great.
<EDIT> DONT click the link, it wont work because the filter replaces the word wh0re with *****. Just type it in your browser manually.
http://www.intellectual*****s.com/masterladder.html
(the part that is probably going to be cencored by the filter is wh0res...as in intellectualwh0res with the 0 being replaced by an o)
If you haven't read it, I'd suggest doing so. It's pretty F'in great.
<EDIT> DONT click the link, it wont work because the filter replaces the word wh0re with *****. Just type it in your browser manually.
check_mate_kid_uk
Master Don Juan
wow this stuff is more or less dead on, i think the link should be the DJ bible but in advanced section or somthing.
One thing to remmber when it says 50% or her liking you is money/power you get so worried aobut the money side of it because you have been told here it is not money and now osmeone says it is, thta you forget aobut the power, sure money is power but so is bieng an alpha male and having confidence! and that maes up that 50%!
but i think if you go on to the forum its a waste of time as its only about the ladder so they do not know the whole game
P.S if you ever visit there site never will you call sosuave a troll, there are people with 17,000 posts and heres what i heared form some one.
"How about 900 in less than a month? (hooray for OT, which Im sure is what made my post count so high so fast) "
One thing to remmber when it says 50% or her liking you is money/power you get so worried aobut the money side of it because you have been told here it is not money and now osmeone says it is, thta you forget aobut the power, sure money is power but so is bieng an alpha male and having confidence! and that maes up that 50%!
but i think if you go on to the forum its a waste of time as its only about the ladder so they do not know the whole game
P.S if you ever visit there site never will you call sosuave a troll, there are people with 17,000 posts and heres what i heared form some one.
"How about 900 in less than a month? (hooray for OT, which Im sure is what made my post count so high so fast) "
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CableLight
Master Don Juan
The part I liked best was about men and women being friends...
"No man can just be friends with a woman he finds attractive."
Exceptions:
"He's gay"
"He doesn't find you attractive."
"He has a woman higher on the ladder than you."
Criticism:I have lots of male friends who would never think of me that way blah blah blah.
Answer:Your friend doesn't find you attractive, or he's currently doing better, or he's gay or you're wrong.
I love it
"No man can just be friends with a woman he finds attractive."
Exceptions:
"He's gay"
"He doesn't find you attractive."
"He has a woman higher on the ladder than you."
Criticism:I have lots of male friends who would never think of me that way blah blah blah.
Answer:Your friend doesn't find you attractive, or he's currently doing better, or he's gay or you're wrong.
I love it
TyTe`EyEs
Master Don Juan
Good sh!t.
“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
The ladder theory itself is correct...But their theory of attraction is overly simplified and flawed. They seem to think if you act like a criminal chicks will pursue you to no end, and if you are intelligent with a good job then you have no chance. That's just stupid.
CableLight
Master Don Juan
Well...I think you might have oversimplified it too much yourself.
Not saying that I totally buy into every word the thing is about (given at least some of it can be classified as satire) but there's one part on there - I think "Common Misconceptions" or something like that which goes into what you were talking about.
I don't know about you guys, but I think I laughed more times reading this than I said "Wow, that's insightful." It's entertaining, to say the least.
McKindley
Senior Don Juan
My ex girlfriend sent me the link once. She raved about how dead on it was.
As a side note, the reason she liked me initially was because I didn't pay much attention to her. After reading the ladder theory she said that was probably why.
As a side note, the reason she liked me initially was because I didn't pay much attention to her. After reading the ladder theory she said that was probably why.