Lacking Motivation?

[Tweek_1984]

I've pretty much hit a wall at the moment.

I'm a RAFC and I've known the basics for quite a while. I've got over my nervousness with girls, to a point where I don't really care about them, even if they're hot.

But anyways, whenever I'm working or in a period where I havent been out for a long time I yern to get out there and meet loads of chicks.

However, whenever I go out, like at the moment I've finished my exams at college and I have a bunch of free time. But I just can't seem to get myself into gear whenever I go out.
For instance, I was out last night at this joint that was FULL of horny women. I mean, I was getting girls giving me eye contact. But I wasn't giving it. It isn't that I don't want to shag these girls, it's just I couldn't be bothered!
I have to be in the party mood and I ain't a people person if you know what I mean so I'm not usually all happy and willing to talk to everyone.

Anyways, I just end up getting bored and depressed and going home. I know I'm doing wrong, but I cant put my finger on why I feel this way or how to fix it.

 

[spider_007]

start sociolizing, one person at a time.

The reason your not "feeling" right, is probably because your not having fun. Find some friends first....

 

[Tweek_1984]

Yep, I agree, but it's more complicated than just that.

I'm actually seeing a student counciller at uni and we have establ;ished that I'm pretty insecure and am going through an identity crisis at the moment.

I just dont know when its going to end.

 

[Alpine]

Purpose.

This is what you are lacking. Because you don't know who you are and what's important to you, there's little motivation to do anything. Chuck in a little bit of, fear of failure and you end up feeling paralysed.

Ponder over these ideas in a quiet moment and see what comes to light.

 

[Scoiland]

you should go out and get some sort of hobby

Join like a dance class ( ballroom ), work out, golf, go for runs down by the river or something

This will make you feel better and make you in a better mood too meet people

And like the above poster stated, you must get good friends first

Your Friends really affect your attitude and if you have boring friends then you aren't going to feel like doing anything either