Hello guys,
I found this site a long time ago and honestly, it helped me to grow up, the Book of Pook is still one of my favorite things to read. When I started reading articles about pick-up I had the same problem I have today. Lack of motivation for communication. Already several years I don't feel any need for communicating with people, I'm just not interested in the person standing in front of me. Don't get me wrong I tried to deal with it: I traveled the world, I have a gorgeous gf , I'm doing now my master's degree in foreign country with great people around me, I live good. But I don't feel important to communicate with people or make new contacts, I don't feel important to them as well. I've tried taking up hobbies and I had good achievements - like going to international european contests, performing on stage, fencing on competitions. I speak 5 languages. Still, as I turn back I realize that I haven't made any new friends, I'm not likely to call any person of my past, excluding may be the few people I'm really used to. Now, being in a foreign country, I feel even less involved in any interaction with people. I know a lot of fun people here, but I'd never call them for a coffee or for a disco.
Lately, I've started encountering the unpleasant consequences of my behavior - I had problems with colleagues at work, I didn't do good at university. Lately I started even having panic attacks on public (I've almost overcome this one).
Although I'm trying to be a happy person, I'm not at all. I feel like I have a negative charisma and people are noticing it. May be my self-esteem is low.
I'd like to do something about that and find motivation to continue(start?) interacting with people in a meaningful way. May be even make some new friends.
Have you ever felt like that? Do you feel like living on your own without any close people?
I'd appreciate if any of you can share experience on that topic. If you can help me with article or a book - it's fine for me.
Thanks.
I found this site a long time ago and honestly, it helped me to grow up, the Book of Pook is still one of my favorite things to read. When I started reading articles about pick-up I had the same problem I have today. Lack of motivation for communication. Already several years I don't feel any need for communicating with people, I'm just not interested in the person standing in front of me. Don't get me wrong I tried to deal with it: I traveled the world, I have a gorgeous gf , I'm doing now my master's degree in foreign country with great people around me, I live good. But I don't feel important to communicate with people or make new contacts, I don't feel important to them as well. I've tried taking up hobbies and I had good achievements - like going to international european contests, performing on stage, fencing on competitions. I speak 5 languages. Still, as I turn back I realize that I haven't made any new friends, I'm not likely to call any person of my past, excluding may be the few people I'm really used to. Now, being in a foreign country, I feel even less involved in any interaction with people. I know a lot of fun people here, but I'd never call them for a coffee or for a disco.
Lately, I've started encountering the unpleasant consequences of my behavior - I had problems with colleagues at work, I didn't do good at university. Lately I started even having panic attacks on public (I've almost overcome this one).
Although I'm trying to be a happy person, I'm not at all. I feel like I have a negative charisma and people are noticing it. May be my self-esteem is low.
I'd like to do something about that and find motivation to continue(start?) interacting with people in a meaningful way. May be even make some new friends.
Have you ever felt like that? Do you feel like living on your own without any close people?
I'd appreciate if any of you can share experience on that topic. If you can help me with article or a book - it's fine for me.
Thanks.