"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Lack of Motivation

ascalon

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Hello guys,


I found this site a long time ago and honestly, it helped me to grow up, the Book of Pook is still one of my favorite things to read. When I started reading articles about pick-up I had the same problem I have today. Lack of motivation for communication. Already several years I don't feel any need for communicating with people, I'm just not interested in the person standing in front of me. Don't get me wrong I tried to deal with it: I traveled the world, I have a gorgeous gf , I'm doing now my master's degree in foreign country with great people around me, I live good. But I don't feel important to communicate with people or make new contacts, I don't feel important to them as well. I've tried taking up hobbies and I had good achievements - like going to international european contests, performing on stage, fencing on competitions. I speak 5 languages. Still, as I turn back I realize that I haven't made any new friends, I'm not likely to call any person of my past, excluding may be the few people I'm really used to. Now, being in a foreign country, I feel even less involved in any interaction with people. I know a lot of fun people here, but I'd never call them for a coffee or for a disco.
Lately, I've started encountering the unpleasant consequences of my behavior - I had problems with colleagues at work, I didn't do good at university. Lately I started even having panic attacks on public (I've almost overcome this one).
Although I'm trying to be a happy person, I'm not at all. I feel like I have a negative charisma and people are noticing it. May be my self-esteem is low.
I'd like to do something about that and find motivation to continue(start?) interacting with people in a meaningful way. May be even make some new friends.
Have you ever felt like that? Do you feel like living on your own without any close people?
I'd appreciate if any of you can share experience on that topic. If you can help me with article or a book - it's fine for me.
Thanks.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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ascalon

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Wow, that sounds... bad. Unfortunately, applies to me to a certain extent :(
At least , according to the articles it's more like a "style" than "condition".
I'll think over it. :) Thanks!
 

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I enjoy my life now that I dont feel sorry for myself all the time. I dont expect life to hand me things and i go out and get what I want

In the same way I hope you dont spend a lot of your time hoping people give you answers, and just find the answers for yourself

Try going out and just saying hi to everyone, and youll break out of social anxiety. It's not rocket science lol
 
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