"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Lack of Motivation

ascalon

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Hello guys,


I found this site a long time ago and honestly, it helped me to grow up, the Book of Pook is still one of my favorite things to read. When I started reading articles about pick-up I had the same problem I have today. Lack of motivation for communication. Already several years I don't feel any need for communicating with people, I'm just not interested in the person standing in front of me. Don't get me wrong I tried to deal with it: I traveled the world, I have a gorgeous gf , I'm doing now my master's degree in foreign country with great people around me, I live good. But I don't feel important to communicate with people or make new contacts, I don't feel important to them as well. I've tried taking up hobbies and I had good achievements - like going to international european contests, performing on stage, fencing on competitions. I speak 5 languages. Still, as I turn back I realize that I haven't made any new friends, I'm not likely to call any person of my past, excluding may be the few people I'm really used to. Now, being in a foreign country, I feel even less involved in any interaction with people. I know a lot of fun people here, but I'd never call them for a coffee or for a disco.
Lately, I've started encountering the unpleasant consequences of my behavior - I had problems with colleagues at work, I didn't do good at university. Lately I started even having panic attacks on public (I've almost overcome this one).
Although I'm trying to be a happy person, I'm not at all. I feel like I have a negative charisma and people are noticing it. May be my self-esteem is low.
I'd like to do something about that and find motivation to continue(start?) interacting with people in a meaningful way. May be even make some new friends.
Have you ever felt like that? Do you feel like living on your own without any close people?
I'd appreciate if any of you can share experience on that topic. If you can help me with article or a book - it's fine for me.
Thanks.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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ascalon

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Wow, that sounds... bad. Unfortunately, applies to me to a certain extent :(
At least , according to the articles it's more like a "style" than "condition".
I'll think over it. :) Thanks!
 

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I enjoy my life now that I dont feel sorry for myself all the time. I dont expect life to hand me things and i go out and get what I want

In the same way I hope you dont spend a lot of your time hoping people give you answers, and just find the answers for yourself

Try going out and just saying hi to everyone, and youll break out of social anxiety. It's not rocket science lol
 
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