"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Lack of Men In Healthcare

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I teach healthcare courses and its mostly women. There are men at the higher levels I guess but the middle and lower levels of healthcare women dominate. This may speak to a larger issue in the labor force. Men seem to have quit the labor force. Most of these classes run 80% women ( im not complaining because its nice eye candy).

I dont blame young men either. Working for a salary is becoming less and less worthwhile. My point is that I finally see what those internet guys were talking about when they said men are dropping out of society.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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I dont blame young men either. Working for a salary is becoming less and less worthwhile. My point is that I finally see what those internet guys were talking about when they said men are dropping out of society.
Healthcare is a service job, so it's traditionally female (doctors aside). A lot of the traditional male jobs have disappeared (but certainly not all). I guess the next thing I would want is hard data showing that a lesser percentage of men are participating in the type of courses you are teaching.

Generally though, I would ask why is seeking a salary less worthwhile for a man than for a woman? Running your own business isn't for everyone. If a woman has reasons to support herself, why doesn't a man? Just because they aren't getting laid on demand? Pretty weak excuse, if you ask me. This is a failure of men, IMO. But also a failure of society as a whole, because boys are not being encouraged like girls have been, and boys have been devalued in the wake of feminism and the lack of male role models, and of fathers in the home.
 

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Healthcare is a service job, so it's traditionally female (doctors aside). A lot of the traditional male jobs have disappeared (but certainly not all). I guess the next thing I would want is hard data showing that a lesser percentage of men are participating in the type of courses you are teaching.

Generally though, I would ask why is seeking a salary less worthwhile for a man than for a woman? Running your own business isn't for everyone. If a woman has reasons to support herself, why doesn't a man? Just because they aren't getting laid on demand? Pretty weak excuse, if you ask me. This is a failure of men, IMO. But also a failure of society as a whole, because boys are not being encouraged like girls have been, and boys have been devalued in the wake of feminism and the lack of male role models, and of fathers in the home.
Yeh you make good points Zekko. The reason I said getting a salary is becoming less worthwhile is because a salary is not keeping up with the cost of living due to inflation. Companies are not paying salaries that coincide with reality and its only getting worse.

Women are usually not as risk taking as men so they are ok being on a sinking ship. Its the same reason why women are still getting college degrees when men have deemed it not worth it.
 

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skilled labor in western countries can still earn more or the same initially as a 4 year degree. they can do it quickly after a training program. either way the path to wealth is how to manage what you have. all things being equal a trade man will be much wealthier than a typical 4 year degree holder at age 30. perhaps with a better life work balance....

its not as simple for women to do well in the labor trades. it can be done, but this is a situation that is not equal. only choice she has it depend on a man, be a secretary...or work in a store... , or more school.
 

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Yeh you make good points Zekko. The reason I said getting a salary is becoming less worthwhile is because a salary is not keeping up with the cost of living due to inflation. Companies are not paying salaries that coincide with reality and its only getting worse.

Women are usually not as risk taking as men so they are ok being on a sinking ship. Its the same reason why women are still getting college degrees when men have deemed it not worth it.
Why would salaries not keeping up with inflation be any different for women as for men? Are men so eager to become parasites living off the government?
As for college degrees, I feel like women are more likely to have parents pay for their college education, or at least part of it. I also wonder if they don't have more resources available to them - scholarships intended to help women since they're supposedly "oppressed" and all. :rolleyes:


skilled labor in western countries can still earn more or the same initially as a 4 year degree. they can do it quickly after a training program. either way the path to wealth is how to manage what you have.
I agree, and this is a big theme with me: a man has to take stock of his gifts and the resources and opportunities he has available to him. There are many different paths to wealth, every individual is unique. You just have to apply yourself, and increase your knowledge and skill where needed.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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For nursing specifically, I think there is still a bit of a stigma regarding male nurses (although there are way more now than there were even 30 years ago). If men enter the medical field, they are expected to become doctors. A male nurse is seen as basically a failed doctor whereas female nurses are often seen in a positive light both for care as well as sexually many times.
 
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