Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
You ever videotaped yourself while you are lifting? Usually there is plenty of room for improvement in the technique department. It's the first thing I'm always looking out if my lifts stall. Most of the time I find a small error in technique and can correct it or it's a combination of bad technique and muscle weakness. (in my bench for example my triceps is a bit weak).Krueg said:Thanks rice!
@Fugly, Yes I could switch/change my assistance exercises. The way I choose assistant work is based off the muscles involved in each lift...
Squat/Dead
-Glutes/Hams
-Low Back
-Abs
Bench
-Triceps
-Lats/Upper Back
-Delts
-Chest/Forearms/Biceps
Sometimes I'll switch it up, but If I feel its not helping my main lift I'll dump it from the program.
If you got some ideas or advice, I'm open to it..
I don't have a way to video tape myself, A co-worker has offered to film me. Havent got around to it. Though I met a competitive powerlifter at my gym who pulled 685 in competition said my deadlift form is good. Though he did tell me to keep eating Big! He's been lifting for 5 years and powerlifting the last 3 years. I on the other hand, only been seriously lifting for a little over a year. Will be nice to see where I'm at after 3-5 years of trainingLifeforce said:You ever videotaped yourself while you are lifting? Usually there is plenty of room for improvement in the technique department. It's the first thing I'm always looking out if my lifts stall. Most of the time I find a small error in technique and can correct it or it's a combination of bad technique and muscle weakness. (in my bench for example my triceps is a bit weak).
Accessory work is all fine and good but shouldn't really be needed until form is perfected. This is when it's possible to actually differentiate between muscle weakness and muscle weakness due to lifting with subpar technique. Just throwing it out there. Adding some high rep work with very low weight to focus on technique might be beneficial to change the neural motor unit activation pattern. Takes loads of reps to incorporate any technique changes.
Lifts are looking good, strong OH press compared to bench. With that bench your OH should be closer to 100 lbs.![]()
Thanks, my all time best Press is 125(lbs) and my best Bench is 155. Nothing awesome but, its gone up from where I was not too long ago...Lifts are looking good, strong OH press compared to bench. With that bench your OH should be closer to 100 lbs.![]()
TheStig said:I agree with Lifeforce, your OH press is reaaaaally close to your bench, which is something I haven't seen before. I'd consider that a good thing, I wish my OH press was as close to my bench as yours is...the most I've ever OH pressed was 155 last week haha. Good job on the double PRs too, 15 lbs is a big increase when you get near maximal loads.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Yeah actually a narrower grip has helped me a lot. Also having my elbow in more has helped. I don't think the reason it helps is more triceps, because they usually are the limiting factor on the bench. Think about it, the triceps are a much smaller muscle group than the chest, so they will be much more likely to fail before your chest really gets fatigued.Krueg said:Thanks Stig, Yea it is kinda odd how close my OH Press is, I'd think my bench should be better but, the bench press is just one of those lifts I've never really been good at. Could be a mental thing, weakness or possibly my grip when benching. I have been benching a little wider lately to focus more on my chest. Think I'll bring things in a couple inches and use a little more triceps and see if that helps.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.