Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Known as the little one

jookins

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Not in terms of size really, i'm 6'3 and 175. ( i was the same height 154 at the beginning of this year so i'm putting on a lot of weight ) but mentally i guess, or in terms of youth. i've always been the younger one at 18 while all of my main friends that i've grown up with are 20-25 . even though i work, goto school, and have done things that are much harder than any of them are capable of doing, i'm still the little one. no one else sees me as the little one that needs to be protected but them .. and now i'm getting a house with a couple of them so what the hell can i do to have them get rid of this paradigm about me? I kind of want to just stop hanging out with them and hang out with my other friends more but these guys are like brothers to me. should i still move in with them? stop hanging out with them as much and do my own thing? i'm sick of being seen as the little one.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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DJDamage

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When you stop caring what other people say/think about you and become a self-sufficient man (which includes not being depended on your friends for living arrangment), then the nickname will simply go away.
 

jookins

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DJDamage said:
When you stop caring what other people say/think about you and become a self-sufficient man (which includes not being depended on your friends for living arrangment), then the nickname will simply go away.
I won't be depended on them. they'll just be roommates. renting out a house and each taking our fair share of rent. so we will each be paying the same amount. it'll be better then living with my mom.

but i'm considering just staying at my moms and rather then have rent i'll get a new car.
 

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Seriously what is wrong with that?

I personally was the little one in my social circle and even up to this day when I see them, they consider me the little one but there isn't even anything negative about it, its more like they look out for me because I'm the young one.

Why do you even care? You know who you are so it shouldn't matter.
 
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