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Don Juan
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How many people know someone who couldn't take the loss and loss the will to live ?
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Some people aren't strong enough to pull themselves out. Bet his ex wife felt like crap.Jariel said:Sadly a friend of mine killed himself about a year ago after separating with his wife. They also had kids together.
I don't know what went on in his head as I never got to talk to him about it, but he looked like he was rebuilding his life from what I could tell and then out of nowhere he ended it. I was so shocked as this was a guy who had everything going for him. He was such a good looking guy, extremely popular, magnetic and had girls lining up to be with him.
I have to confess that I too had some dark thoughts of this nature after my most recent break up. I've never hit such a low point in my life, but it absolutely crushed me and I needed to see my doctor for depression. It's crazy now I look back as I feel a lot better, but the pain I felt at the time was absolutely crippling. I remember how my pulse would pound for hours, I could feel my heart in my chest and this constant churning in my stomach. I can definitely understand why someone going through that would want to end it.
But if you just push through it, it does go away.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
That happens a lot. the number one cause of death in the Marine Corps is suicide. Number two is motorcycle accidents.GS750 said:Had a college buddy come back from his second tour in Iraq only to find out his GF of 4 years was banging another guy. He couldn't take it and ended it. She's married to the guy she left him for.
And somehow I bet she benefitted greatly from the "emotional trauma" of it all.GS750 said:Had a college buddy come back from his second tour in Iraq only to find out his GF of 4 years was banging another guy. He couldn't take it and ended it. She's married to the guy she left him for.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Yeah he pretty much snapped. He may have been dealing with some PTSD too.noobolgy said:That happens a lot. the number one cause of death in the Marine Corps is suicide. Number two is motorcycle accidents.
Never get married before you go on tour, or have a girlfriend. You will come back to her the way you left her, freshly fvcked.
This one guy in my unit came back from Iraq and his bank accounts were cleaned out, and his girlfriend left him.
I find it sad how little respect some of these woman have for armed forcesnoobolgy said:That happens a lot. the number one cause of death in the Marine Corps is suicide. Number two is motorcycle accidents.
Never get married before you go on tour, or have a girlfriend. You will come back to her the way you left her, freshly fvcked.
This one guy in my unit came back from Iraq and his bank accounts were cleaned out, and his girlfriend left him.
wow.. thats just..... terrible..GS750 said:Had a college buddy come back from his second tour in Iraq only to find out his GF of 4 years was banging another guy. He couldn't take it and ended it. She's married to the guy she left him for.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.