"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Kissing women upon introduction

parkthebus

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Do you do it and under what circumstances? I noticed often when you meet a woman you either make no body contact which is awkward, a hug which is feminine or a kiss which a lot people nowadays (even men who are in the vicinity) would find uncomfortable.

I met a bird at a club last week and because she was Spanish I felt I could do it but not so much with English girls. It's a shame because it feels like the most appropriate why to introduce yourself to a woman for me.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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raider87

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A Kiwi girl got mad at me once for not kissing her cheek on the first date when I picked her up. I do my best to avoid kiwi women now.
 

RangerMIke

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In New Orleans, this in normal if you know a woman. Inappropriate for a first time meeting of a woman in a professional settling. The Southern US I very familiar and friendly, Southeast Louisiana from Lafayette to New Orleans is culturally Spanish and French, so hugging and kissing women you may have meet only once, is normal.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Lozboss

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Kiss on the cheek, perhaps both. Start out as you mean to continue.

It's confident and sets the masculine tone that this is a date
 

ubercat

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Mate of mine does the side hug and kiss on one cheek very well. I hug. I think if it is a date and they are not willing even to do that its low interest and you should cut the date short. I know some guy's here don't even do kino on the first date. They prefer to escalate verbally and with eye contact. I'm not that advanced so I. use Kino on the first date to screen interest level.
 
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General rule of thumb: touch hands first... lower back .. arm.. hug. kiss.. However this is the safe way of ****.. If a girl is attracted to you and can hold eye contact for morew than a few seconds.. boom kiss.. skip everything else just go for it.

Easy money.

Other tips: instead of jus going fr it.theres even more clever way of doing things.. ie asking for her hands, then pulling her close to you, then going for the kiss..

and other tips i aint giving away because i use them myself ;) can't share uniqueness
 

ubercat

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Oh 1 absolute hug no no. Never do the back pat. 'Flippers' is the international signal that you're uncomfortable/in confident.
 
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