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The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

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Kissing a girl's hand when introduced

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You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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when introduced?
doing it playfully - absolutely, yes!
 

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Rudra said:
when introduced?
doing it playfully - absolutely, yes!

Dumb question but how what would you consider "playfully"?

It is a bold move I'd have to say, not too many guys do it these days.
 

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You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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I've never actually seen anyone do it so I can't tell you if it works or not but I could see it working if done right. Just got to show a lot of confidence. But I think it will fail more times than work.
 

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Frenchconnection said:
It is a bold move I'd have to say, not too many guys do it these days.
That's because the times has changed, this isn't 18th century France.

The equivelent of that today is greeting a woman by kissing her on the cheek and doing so with confidence (on both cheeks if you are in europe).

However I still hold firm to the belief that if you want to create high interest in a woman, the first kiss should always be on the lips and not anywhere else. A simple handshake to start the kino and looking into her eyes with confidence for first meeting is your best bet.
 

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Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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One of the only ways (the only one I have thought of) that would make this funny is...

Over exaggerate everything, talk in a British accent, act as if you're her Knight in shining armor, and over do it immensely. Make sure she knows you're mocking a chivalrous d-bag from the 15th century.
 

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I heard that when you shake a girl's hand, you can make it more memorable/flirty by putting your left hand on the back of her right hand (so that you're basically using both hands). I've tried doing that before and it seemed to work ok. Kissing on the hand is just kinda weird, tho.
 

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i wouldnt recommend most guys to do it. doing something like that is REAL easy to come across as a slimeball. youve gotta have a lot of confidence and charm.. so much in fact, that it wouldnt even matter whether you shook her hand, kissed it, hugged her, whatever. with enough confidence just about anything you do is cool and attractive.

ive done it a couple times and had fun with it. if i was at the bar and a group of girls introduced me to one of their cute friends and i was drunk and didnt care id do it. the girls loved it.. but again, as much as i hate to say it, if i wasnt 6'4" and in good shape and dressed sharp at the time, it probably wouldnt have gone over so well. i definately wouldnt do it in everyday situations, but thats just me.

-SLB
 

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That might work with a very old fashioned type of girl, but most women would look at you like a weirdo. Kissing a hand has just fallen out of fashion like the horse and buggy. The Victorian age is over.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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I use it all the time :)
By doing it playfully I mean - doing it in a way that the chick can´t tell if you are being serious or poking fun at her.
So you accompany it with some 18th century phrase like "wilt thou give me your hand" or whatever before kissing it.
I like it, girls like it, otherwise I wouldnt do it.
Corny it is when you do it drop dead seriously.
 

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No too corny....unless you actually ARE French, then you could get away with it.:D
 

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Firm, but not crushing handshake, with good, warm eye contact, in which you glide your hand off hers at the end of the handshake. Instant turn-on: sometimes continues as a bit of hand massage play.
 

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In a playful way when introduced, is perfectly fine. It shows that you display confidence/sense of humour, providing they think its humourous that is. The key is to smile when you do it.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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