"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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italostud

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Hey whattup sosuave. It's been a while. Anyways, I've been gaming tons of girls over the past few months, racking up the lays. My game just keeps improving and improving. But what to do when you suddenly hit a roadblock because some girl just won't let you kiss her?

This usually doesn't happen to me, in fact I can't remember the last time it happened. Anyways, long story short, went out with this girl for a 1st date. Everything was going great, my game was on 100%, I was very relaxed, in control etc. We were very touchy feely throughout the date, her initiating on me and vice-versa.

So I'm dropping her off at her car, we're talking etc, I tell her she smells nice and I'm working my way around her neck to her earlobe, then I'm going for the kiss, and she pulls away. Whoa, wtf, weird feeling for me, I'm not used to that. Then we talk a few more mins, and I tell her I gotta go, we hug, and she pulls away before I can even try to move my mouth around into kissing position. She gives me a little sly smile before she gets out and says she had a good time, and that was it.

What do you guys think? Low IL, or IL so high she's playing hard to get? Is there even such a thing as IL so high it backfires on you and she plays hard to get?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Is there even such a thing as IL so high it backfires on you and she plays hard to get?
No. That would require self control. Women don't have that.

You can't tell me this woman has NEVER kissed ANYONE on the 1st date.

It just means lukewarm interest - but not necessarily fatal. If you aren't making out heavy by the 3rd date, give up. In my experience, it's hopeless after the 3rd.
 

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Thanks for the responses guys. I think she's a bit of a nice girl so I'm going with Teflon's theory, but it could also be mediocre interest...who knows, i'll find out on date 2.
 

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It's usually the simplest answer.... ur breathe smelled like bootydo...

bootydo = ur breathe smells like my booty do


-Cod3r
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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italostud

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Haha nah man. Thanks for the advice guys.
 

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Look, she was letting you kiss her neck, ear lobe, etc...

So she is attracted to you and wants to get sexual, but some chicks (being the dumb beings that they are) believe that by NOT kissing the guy on the first date, demonstrate their value and makes them feel less like the a slut.

Dont worry about it man. Looks like your game is tight ("you smell nice"... classic line... perfect excuse to get close up, then the neck, etc... damn man! thats exactly what i do!!!")

You'll get the kiss, and possibly more next time you take her out.

p.s. you said you were dropping her off at her car??? man! next time give her some damn alcohol!
 

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yeah, shes playing hard to get. shes one of those dumb girls that thinks being a challenge makes them hotter, lol. totally got it wrong. Alot of guys on here think the same way; challenge=hotness. its stupid.
 

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I hate when some chicks overly play hard to get... When a girl does that to me, I just next her, and she ends up regretting she played that game with me.

I'd go out with that girl again and kino her some more, and just go for that kiss again. Like one person said, she is just probably one of those girls who don't kiss on the first date.
 

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Haha I had the same type of thing happen last weekend! Keep in mind I'm in highschool and this was a very very shy nice type of girl. well I investigated the matter and found out that the girl wanted more from me and an actual relationship before she would kiss me. Granted she's never been kissed b4 but.........Thats just not what I'm looking for so I pulled out my LJBF card and My NEXT!!!......... Some girls place to much importance on a kiss
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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