"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Kiss Close Rejection

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Hey guys

Would like some of your thoughts when it comes to having your kiss attempt rejected.

I'm not someone that makes a point to kiss a girl on the first date. Usually on the 2nd or 3rd.

Was out with a girl on a 3rd date a few days back. We got along well and i felt there was good interest level. So we went for a walk in the park and ending up talking on a swing. Started touching her hair and she seemed fine with it, smelled it, her neck :) and went for the kiss. Tried turning her face towards me but it felt like i was moving a rock. Tried again 30mins later with the same reaction and I could sense she was getting awkward about it. I kept my composure and called it a night. We continued talking as normal on the way home.

They way i see it, her interest level may not be as high as i thought. She pegged me as a player from the first date so she might be apprehensive about intimacy. She knows about the 'game' and i sense she's suspicious of such guys. Not my fault that I'm comfortable being around women :)

I have good mind to next her and let her contact me again if she is still interested. I'm not one that believes in persistently pursuing a girl.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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If she rejects your kiss on the first date move on. It's as simple as that.
 
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She isn't sexually attracted to you but likes the attention and is likely considering you as a candidate to be a provider

Next
 
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She rejected your kiss attempt and you tried again?

When they turn their head what she is basically saying is "i will let you pay for my dinner and waste your paycheck and precious time, but don't expect anything in return."

Next her. She is not interested.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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dude99 said:
She rejected your kiss attempt and you tried again?

When they turn their head what she is basically saying is "i will let you pay for my dinner and waste your paycheck and precious time, but don't expect anything in return."

Next her. She is not interested.
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I've had success with some girls with a 2nd attempted kiss close during the night.

But this was just a straight out rejection both times.

Based on the rest of the feedback, she's off my contact list.
 
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Dynamited said:
I've had success with some girls with a 2nd attempted kiss close during the night.

But this was just a straight out rejection both times.

Based on the rest of the feedback, she's off my contact list.
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Nothing wrong on giving it a second try, as you did. Specially if it works for you. Keep doing what you are doing bro, but next this one.
 
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CuddleJunkie said:
Nothing wrong on giving it a second try, as you did. Specially if it works for you. Keep doing what you are doing bro, but next this one.
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Thanks Bro. This serves as a good reminder that there are girls that will just go out with you for the attention.

Best to go for the kiss close sooner than later to see where you stand.
 
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You're wasting your time not going for the kiss on the first date.

I try to kiss before a kiss close, because it gets the hamster spinning. Rejection is good. Embrace rejection. You need to get rejection before you get to success. Many times, going for the kiss mid-date can lead to a kiss-close that wouldn't have otherwised happened.

A woman who rejects a kiss close is simply not ready to kiss you. A simple test of her interest is to wait a week and ask her out, just like you normally would. If she rejected your kiss but is still interested (some chicks have arbitrary rules), her interest level will increase by rejecting you. See what she does in that time apart. I've had chicks reject my kiss on the first date, only to hit me up a day or two later, to which I was able to proceed normally and get the kiss on the second date. If you don't get a second date or get any kind of wishy-washy response, you have your answer.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Dynamited said:
Hey guys

Would like some of your thoughts when it comes to having your kiss attempt rejected.

I'm not someone that makes a point to kiss a girl on the first date. Usually on the 2nd or 3rd.

Was out with a girl on a 3rd date a few days back. We got along well and i felt there was good interest level. So we went for a walk in the park and ending up talking on a swing. Started touching her hair and she seemed fine with it, smelled it, her neck :) and went for the kiss. Tried turning her face towards me but it felt like i was moving a rock. Tried again 30mins later with the same reaction and I could sense she was getting awkward about it. I kept my composure and called it a night. We continued talking as normal on the way home.

They way i see it, her interest level may not be as high as i thought. She pegged me as a player from the first date so she might be apprehensive about intimacy. She knows about the 'game' and i sense she's suspicious of such guys. Not my fault that I'm comfortable being around women :)

I have good mind to next her and let her contact me again if she is still interested. I'm not one that believes in persistently pursuing a girl.
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No kissing on a first date? You should be trying to fvck on a first date...get out of fairy tale land, bro...

Yeah, its awkward because she is like WTF is wrong with this dude? We are just friends...

You wanted to be friends the first 2 dates, now you are just her friend.
 
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Should have kiss closed on the first date. That way she knows you mean business. She'll either move away because she only wanted an orbiter, or join you.

Alas, anytime you get rejected by a girl, you have failed at being more value than her ex and also failed at making her tingle.

Ditch this girl unless you want to keep being her friend.
 
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Agree with all the others. Whether you actually have sex on the first date or not, knowing it's your choice whether or not to do it gets lots of intermediate BS out of the way. Most of the women I've dated will complain about pushy guys, and then instantly disqualify men who don't try to get them in bed the first date. If a woman -ever- turns her cheek to a kiss, at the end of date 1, date 100 or after a year of living together, move on to better options instantly in mind and deed. Keeps things very simple. Good luck.
 
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