"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Hey all.

So kino has been a long standby in our technical repertoire for obvious reasons.

In order for a girl to make a connection sexually, she has to receive the connection physically.

This, I can accept.

However, as of late, I've been seeing a huge gung-ho mentality on kino being the magic key to "escalating." In my view, telling that to someone new will cause him to go out and just be touching up on girls all the time, any time, without regard to whether the girl wanted the touch in the first place.

Granted, that might work on some girls, somehow. Statistically, it's possible. Just like how some people win the Powerball.

But the way I've been taught to view kino was as a single headshot from a sniper scope. It's precise. It is the embodiment of the hunter's killer intent. Most of all, it is fleeting and scarce.

This doesn't mean NOT touching her. Of course I have to touch her.

But for me, it DOES mean not touching her all the time. Because she should yearn for the touch, she should beg for the touch.

I think a big part of this is from my training in Latin dance, and understanding that touching all the time, like being available all the time, lowers the value of the touch. Latin dance is all about fleeting moments of push and pull, the uncertainty of the man's return, the chase.

Damn I just made myself horny.

Anyway, discuss kino. More or less?
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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PapiChulo

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It's actually pretty good stuff, it shows that you are confident and know what you are doing. You could make her wet with one touch, then props to you.


On the other hand, it may come in as a bit overwhelming to some women, simply because they don't get enough kino at first.

The idea is to make her comfortable- then, sexually aroused.


So, I think that the answer is somewhere in between the two - the smoothness, the elegance are what makes this a seduction weapon.
 

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from my 2-3 yrs of pursuit in this, the only thing i can say is just b/c you think "oh sh!t, i got to kino this girl", it doesn't work that way. you feel awkward. you got to feel like you're sexy beast, confident, a man. but this is REALLY hard. becoming a state that you are not is incredibly hard to transit. I done this by riding motorcycle. thats how i became someone that i always desired; unique, hot, risk-taking, confident, bad-a$$. how would you achieve yours?
 

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^^^^^easier there, you are not trying to kino yourself Mr. Sexy.

Then, confidence is the foundation of pretty much anything we read on here. It's a given.
 

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So, as I said before, we can all pretty much agree that kino is something that must be used sparingly and effectively when the targets arise.

And we can all agree that Kino isn't like a shoving dollar bills into a vending machine, where the act of simply paying money (kino) will get you candy (p*ssy).

Like I said, it's more like hunting. If you're constantly firing your guns at everything you can see, no deer will come within 2 miles of you. You've gotta be patient and observant, looking for that opportunity to strike, and then striking with precision.

For illustrative purposes, here are things that girls have done to let me know that they're open to kino:

1) Talking directly into my ear
2) Standing closer than 2 ft when there's plenty of room at the bar/in the room/etc
3) Grabbing my arm/pulling me around

Honestly, these are the easy indicators - but nonetheless they're invitations to escalate, and I feel that most new guys are lost on the idea of the invitation before the escalation.

When it comes to kino as part of an approach, I feel like most new guys are trying to learn cold approaches with little or no invitation before they learn to observe and read women.

I look for these opportunities, and then strike.

The flip side is tougher, where a girl isn't necessarily showing obvious signs of openness.

This is when a guy should test the water - initiating touch like a cold approach - but the key objective must be to gauge her reaction, see whether she WANTED it. If she responds positively, escalate - if not try again once or twice, and if nothing happens, I'd say nothing is going to come out of extra kino to without a whole lot of extra luck.

Other thoughts?
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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