"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

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She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Kino while dancing

Blackstaff

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I've been taking salsa classes for two weeks, and I wonder how you kino while dancing other than just holding hands or the dance moves ? Any experiences and tips are welcome in this thread.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Le Parisien

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Being a beginner level salsa dancer myself, I'd say that don't worry about kino yet when you are not at least an intermediate level dancer.

In the salsa context, it's supposed to be sensual, not sexual, it's NOT grinding ok?:eek:

Kino is all about subtlety in this context. The girl should not be able to tell whether the kino is a necessary part of the dance moves or your attempt to arouse her, or both...
I don't know if you get what I mean...:D

To be simple, just watch how the salsa masters are making girls hot just by dancing with them and learn!

Oh, one last thing: don't forget the eye contact, that's powerful mental kino!
 

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Yeah, as it's indicated in this forum countless times before, our kino should not be understood as an effort of neediness or anxiety by her while in dancing too. But for instance, while starting to dance or on a high point during the dance, I slowly stroke the inside of her palm or fingers, try to use little brushes to her back/shoulder as the moves pass by.

Any other ideas/experiences ?
 

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-The are the elements of kino-
Sight
Sound
Smell
Touch
Taste

-These are the inferences of kino-
method
structure
comfort
connections
motive

-The outcome of kino-
Conformity
Congruity
Harmony
Approval

-The goals of kino-
Stimulate
Encourage
Challenge
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That is my system of identifying kino. I started my system when I joined this site. I stumbled across body language discussion and started small research into the purpose and never pursued the matter... I am not a dancer, but I want to be.

I am now intrigued by the notion again, and am compelled by my recent research abstracts into this area of study:p

Mental Kino, MAVEC is going to be an extreme part of dancing and conveying sexual attitudes.

As not even a beginner dancer I can't really HELP you decide what kino to do... everything I say from here on out is KBJ business. It is only KBJ because I have zero fundamental experience in the subject. I have impatient, anxious, excited, and DrUnK experience, but nothing that relates to patience and research.

*Key board jockeying in progress*
tuck your head into her neck
while in the vacinity of her ear, take a whiff
pull her hand to your mouth
lightly squeeze her hand(congruity test?)
lightly squeeze her back when guiding her
whisper a situational joke in her ear
blow on her ear

I'm guessing that dancing brings out so many opportunities for kino, that it is the kino pratice ground. It is the safe haven of kino. It will also be a trial and error grounds for any problems that arise, ie she will stop dancing with you or her 'tells' will be immediately known that your actions and movements are off key.

Wow, Monday I join dance class:D:D :cheer: :woo:
 

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Women love it when you have your way with them. Do whatever you want to them... grab them alittle too hard, hold them alittle too close.. It will excite the hell out of them.
 

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The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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