"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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cablecow15

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ok theres this girl i like and she likes me a bit to but when we walk around the block i put my hand on her shoulder and she says ""stop touching me""
could she just not like being touched on the shoulder or am i coming off bad and just need to slow down
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Lmao she says thats all the time?? Maybe u being unoriginal.. And If she says that all the time!!!!! Then its time to dump her!! If she says it in a funny way, then its time to bang her! good luck :D
 

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depends on how your doing it, you don't want to get her used to you touching and have her end up always saying that, that is why when you first starting to just leave it there for a bit (1-2 secs) and then get more bolder. playfully bumping or pushing her is great to. Also read up on compliance theory so you can get a little info on how to kino properly and learn how to escalate it from there.
 

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she says dont touch me in a fast way so i guess thats playfull but i have a BIG BIG PROBLEM ok her last bf came back (me and him were friends) and i think hes after her again and i think he likes him to so im wondering if i should just aske her out now and hope for the best or is there something i can try to ruin his game , or just move on (id rather not move on ) any ideas ?
 

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cablecow15 said:
she says dont touch me in a fast way so i guess thats playfull but i have a BIG BIG PROBLEM ok her last bf came back (me and him were friends) and i think hes after her again and i think he likes him to so im wondering if i should just aske her out now and hope for the best or is there something i can try to ruin his game , or just move on (id rather not move on ) any ideas ?
Why ruin his game? You are Prince Charming, remember? If she's too foolish to see that you're the better choice, than it's her fault. NEXT her if she chooses to go to someone else. (see the DJ Bible for the Prince Charming stuff)
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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thank you will do but like sometimes he does little jokes that piss me off and make me look bad
 

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Keep your cool with the guy. The last thing you want is to have an emotional outburst. Keep playing your game, but remember the KEY to kino is your recognition of her response to kino. It's not the physical act itself, but how she feels about it. If you're getting negative body language, back off. If you KNOW for sure you have rapport with her you can freeze her out by turning your body slightly away from her to convey distance. If she reinitiates, you've got her. You should freeze out for 3-5 min the first time you have to do it. If you're playing solid game w/ kino and she still gives you the cold should and negative body language, its time to move on. (Freeze outs- credit Mystery)
 
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