"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Kino: So effective, so sedddductivee

JohnChops

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Went out on Saturday with my buddy, his girl, and one of her friends (who I never met). We all went out and I really had no intention of gaming this chick, but that all changed.

Naturally I flirt with almost everyone and anyone, why the hell not, and touching is one of the best things to do when you want to flirt and make your intentions known without saying a word.

We were at a bar, she was always in close proximity to me but no touching as of yet, just some small conversation. Then we were moving to a new place and I threw my arms around her and moved her. After that it was game over.

From there on out, the whole night, she was ALWAYS touching me. If I was sitting down next to her, her foot/legs were always touching mine. She was talking about ripped jeans or some **** (women clothes ****) so I felt her leg and said, " no rips, not cool". There was a point in the night when we were all sitting for an extended period of time and she was putting her arms all over my shoulders, she grabbed my face at one point.I've never been so violated ;).

You get the point here, she was all over me. At the end of the night, she drove separate and I drove with my buddy and his GF, my buddy's GF gets a text from her friend and says, "Give JohnChops my number please".

Take away message: KINO THE **** OUT OF ANY SITUATION. But the kicker is not doing it in a creepy way. If you are not comfortable in your touch she will notice and she will not be turned on. She will know you are not comfortable with yourself. So only do the above if comfortable.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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dustmuffin

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Kino is the shiz.....firm believer here
 

dustmuffin

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Had a recent date comment how much she liked my "affection". It was balls deep kino. Easy way to start is when you meet get a hug. Then guide her to the table with your hand in the middle of her lower back. Is she wearing rings? TAke her hand in yours and ask her about it......OMG! There is something in your hair. Brush it out with your hand and when you take your hand away let it brush her arm.....There are so many different ways to apply kino!
 

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They will tell you were that line is. I believe in discovering it. In my experiences, it's always a great latitude farther then one might think. Have some instincts of course, but KINO is way underestimated. Except in a professional environment.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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You can kino anyone. I kino my patients every single day (non-sexually). Touch them on the shoulder, back, maybe touch their hand when I'm trying to make an important point. It works. They trust me and relax a little.
 

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You can kino anyone. I kino my patients every single day (non-sexually). Touch them on the shoulder, back, maybe touch their hand when I'm trying to make an important point. It works. They trust me and relax a little.
Absolutely. Kino can be used with guys, of course, non-sexually, but things like putting your arm around their shoulders when talking good about the guy makes the interaction much more connective between you and the guy. Things like this, really help to make your male friendships stronger.
 
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