"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Kino Resistance

Obsidian

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Sometimes I'll seem to get pretty good IOIs, but then the moment I try kino, they seem to freak out. This isn't even hard-core kino either. I wouldn't claim to be a kino master yet (altho I've looked at the dicarlo escalation ladder), but I've had girls seem to flip when I just touch their arm or shoulder before. It's like they were raped by their dads as children and have gone insane or something...

Are some girls just resistant to kino? Perhaps all shy girls? Or some subset of shy girls?

Or perhaps I am just getting unlucky and trying it on specific girls who aren't interested, in which case I should just take the hint and move on to others. That's my usual response.

What have been the experiences of others? If a girl acts weird in response to kino, should you move on and continue to work on your game?
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Mindtrust

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Firstly, there is a time and a place for kino...

I think the key is, the more practice you have at it, the more you will realise when to use and not to use.

Its a skill and all skills have to be learnt..

Once you have mastered it then you will get the vibes you are expecting..

Mindtrust.
 

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Well, that is all true, but my main question is whether there are some girls who just really tend to react negatively to kino (or maybe you just have to go especially slow with them). If I'm just f*cking up the kino that's one thing, but maybe there are some people with whom I just shouldn't do much kino at all until later on.
 

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im no expect but this is what i would do. If i was going to use kino i would wait until the girl touches me first. That way you know that she is ready to be touched and WANTS to be touched.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Play the Game

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If you're doing it by the book, you're probably freaking them out cuz you don't know the proper time to do it or how to do it.
I don't wait for a girl to touch me, that's for pussies. I try to lay it on her as soon as she's ready.

You know i can't even explain it... i just do it. like nike. Don't think too much about it, its all emotional. you have to feel it.

Shy girls tend to have that barrier to them that you have to cross. I've never liked doing it myself...
I feel a bit weird when the girl kisses me but doesn't return the vibe at first. It takes them a while to get used to expressing feeling with other people.
 

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As a woman I can tell you this much...usually if a woman tenses up or pulls away at even the slightest physical contact she just does NOT want you to touch her. I can't speak for all other women, but when I pull away and act tense when a guy touches me it is because I either do not like him as a person or I am not attracted to him and do not want to encourage him to pursue me.
 

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Here's a good clue to look for to determine if she is open enough to you for you to even try to attempt to touch her...

If her arms or legs are crossed...it's a no go.
If her arms and legs aren't crossed and she's leaning in towards you...it's a go
If she is sitting sideways instead of directly facing you...it's a no go
If her eyes are darting all around like she's looking for the nearest exit...it's a no go.
If her facial expressions show tense upper eyelids, raised eyebrows, nose crinkled, lips tight...she doesn't like you...those are all indicators that a person is annoyed or disgusted.
 

Jovan

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Wyldfire is right you are obviously doing something wrong when trying to kino these girls and most likely its because you are thinking about it to much
 
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